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I was married for many years and ended up going through a divorce. I successfully navigated the divorce process, came out the other side and I’m now happily remarried. During my divorce, I learned many life lessons and would like to share them with you. I feel that while the divorce process is certainly a difficult time in someone’s life, it can be a re-birth and an opportunity to find oneself again. I hope that this blog inspires and encourages people to move on and see that there is light at the end of the tunnel.


Lois Tarter has a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Sociology and a Masters Degree in Alternative Dispute Resolution. She was a Social Worker for the Los Angeles County Bureau of Adoptions for a number of years. Once a Social Worker, always a Social Worker – Tarter, who for many years was a COO of a 250 person direct marketing company still found time to assist women having relationship problems, especially in the field of spousal abuse. She joined the Women’s Resource Center in San Diego and encouraged the women in her company to become involved. Through her mentoring, many actually performed hours of volunteer service at the center. She also presented programs at her office sponsored by the center to raise awareness of the indices and ramifications of abuse.

After receiving her Master’s Degree in Alternative Dispute Resolution, Tarter worked as a Mediator for the City Attorney’s office in Los Angeles. She noticed how anger and hostility were major stumbling blocks in the completion of divorce settlements and how they affect everything from dealing with and about to be ex-spouse to relationships with children. More importantly, Tarter has had years of therapy and has become more able to understand motivation and individual actions.

When she divorced, she realized that something had to be done to mark the day. She went through an intense period of attempting to figure out the best way to give the divorce a form of closure. Her musings and exploring of options resulted in a party that initially started off as an “ex-spouse bashing” and culminated in a celebration of the route she had traveled and the friends who had supported her along the way. This journey has allowed her to put to rest much of her anger, frustration, and unhappiness and provided a positive and cathartic closure to a very difficult period in her life. So you could say, Tarter has been there, done that and found out what really worked and would like to share her journey with others.

Lois has written articles about divorce for such popular publications as The Huffington Post, SheKnows and More Magazine. For more information please visit: