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A Moment to Move

Category : Readers Response

After you get divorced life goes on. I got this email below from a reader who is looking to move on in more ways than one. Take a look…



First, let me take a moment to tell you how much I enjoy your blog. It’s a part of my morning ritual along with my cup of Earl Grey tea!

Okay, down to the matter at hand. I was hoping you could offer some advice on how to handle a potential promotion at my job. I have been working at the same company for five years and have been divorced for two. I have primary custody of my two children and my husband sees them two weekends out of the month.  I was offered an extremely attractive promotion by my company that includes 50% raise in my salary.  However, I would have to relocate from Los Angeles to Sacramento. The company will cover the relocation fee and pay for the first six months rent at our new home. My two children are six and eight years old and I feel that they would not mind a move because they would be closer to their grandparents (my parents) who they adore. My ex is two months behind on child support and he didn’t show to pick up the children last weekend. It’s clear that I can’t count on him anymore. Do you think I should take the promotion and relocate?

Thank you.


Thanks for reading my blog. I deeply appreciate your continued support. I wanted to also say congrats on your promotion. It’s great to see that hard work pays off. I think you should take this promotion opportunity seriously. I also think you should consider the fact that your husband is two months behind on the child support seriously too. He could continue to not pay, or maybe he will pay. But either way, it surely looks inconsistent. You can’t just take the children and leave, so this is something you need to come to an agreement about. I would contact your divorce attorney and see what the possibilities are. You company believes in your so it’s important to not let them down. I suggest getting on this in speedy fashion and try to make this move happen. It seems like it might just be a positive move for not only you, but the children as well.

Good luck and please let me know how it works out!


Comments (1)

While you need to insist on all your ex’s responsibilities (financial) for your children, you also need to do everything you can to become as independent as possible as soon as possible. The sooner, the better.

Undoubtedly, your ex will soon be “moving on” to a new relationship/marriage/children, etc.!

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