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Flying High After A Divorce

Category : Divorce Day, Divorce Party

I threw a divorce party recently for a client and it was a blast! There was lots of humor and healing during a great afternoon along the canals in Venice Beach, California.

One of the reasons my divorce parties are unique from others is because of the rituals that my divorcees perform during each event. Not only do they bring structure to the party, but they offer a sort of do-it-yourself divorce detox. Each ritual performed gives way to more and more healing for the divorcee — the notion of moving on (and not looking back)!  I am always amazed at  how much other guests, who are divorced but didn’t have a divorce party, also feel a sense of healing and closure after being at a friends divorce party.

One of the rituals that is always a hit, and a personal fave of mine, is Fly Fly Away. I covered it months ago on my blog, but I have some new photos of this ritual being performed that I am excited to share with you! There will be more rituals in my upcoming book, The Divorce Ritual, so stay tuned. Meanwhile, here are the steps below for Fly Fly Away:

Step 1) On small pieces of paper, the divorcee should write all of the things she disliked about her ex.

Step 2) On small pieces of paper the guests should write down all of the wonderful things that they want for the divorcee’s new life.

Step 3) Everybody should roll up the little pieces of paper and put them into the balloons.

Step 4) Blow up the balloons and tie a string around each one.

Step 5) The divorcee should go outside with everyone at the party and let the balloons go into the sky (as pictured above).

Comments (4)

Great idea!

My divorce is to be final sometime in the next 2 months. I feel so weird about it, because although it’s the right thing to do, my ex is now putting on his nice behavior again. I suppose it’s because it’s finally safe to be civil again. That said, a divorce party — and this idea — sounds great. I think I’ll invite some people over and do exactly as you say.


Looks like a fun day. I been divorced and never had a party. Maybe it’s time. thx

great touch to a divorce party. I am a guy and wanna do this, looks like fun

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