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Separation Anxiety

Category : Separation

It was sad to hear that actress Melissa Gilbert has filed for divorce from fellow actor Bruce Boxleitner after 16 years of marriage.  The former “Little House on the Prairie” star cited “irreconcilable differences.” The couple had been separated since January.

This brought up an interesting question.  Do you think that a separation prior to divorce can help you better decide if you should split? Separation can give you both a moment to see what it would be like if you were, in fact, divorced. Sure, it’s not the full spectrum and if you have children together you may see each other more during the separation, but one would think that it’s worth a shot before you go all the way.  You could meet with a  therapist once a week and see how each of you are progressing during the split.  It can also help you collect your thoughts and see if you actually miss your spouse.  On the other hand, I have heard of some people who do not believe in separation.  They feel that if they are going to pack their bags and leave the house, then they will be leaving for good.

What do you think, is it healthy to separate or do you go for the full divorce?

Comments (3)

I would go for that; what can it hurt.
It will either confirm your intent to separate, or cause you to rethink it.

If there are young children involved, it might help let them adjust more easily to the impending divorce.

It may teach them lesson of at least “trying one more time” to resolve a difficult situation or it may confuse them even more.

How is that for sitting on the fence…

I’d like to know what percentages of marriages are saved from divorce if the couple tries separation first. Anyone know?

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