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Children and Divorce

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One of the biggest casualites that are sometimes forgotten about during the divorce process are the children.  The kids were there for it all, especially the fighting that happens pre-divorce as well as during and post.  The oldest daughter of Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver, Katherine (pictured above),  is in the media as of late speaking about her parents failed marriage after 25 years together.  She has been quiet, but broke that silence Harpers Bazaar and was very open about her feelings.

“Me and my siblings have never really been in the spotlight growing up,” she told the magazine. “My parents always really sheltered us, so when [the separation] started happening, it was like everything came out of nowhere overnight.”

She says the media backlash began shortly after. “I would go out to lunch, and literally 20 people would come and scream at me. And I’m like, this is so inappropriate; you’re trying to provoke me to have an attack and say something crazy.”

She spent time in London to escape the scandal where the split wasn’t as big of a deal. Still, she says she doesn’t pay any attention to tabloids. “I see them, but I choose not to read the stories because I figure whether it’s true or not, I don’t need to,” she explained. “I just focus on my family and everyone being okay instead of following the gossip.”

Katherine goes on to say that, “I really do believe everything happens for a reason.  A lot of the time, it’s hard to understand in the moment why things are happening, but I really do think that. I also like to think God doesn’t really give you anything you can’t handle.”

It’s hard on normal families, I can’t imagine one that is in the spotlight like they are.  What do you feel parents can do — or, don’t do –  to make the divorce process as easy as possible for their children?  Share some of your ideas.

Comments (4)

Don’t do what Arnold did.

I’m certainly not an expert and have not experienced a divorce directly.

However, it does seem critical that both divorcing parents talk separately with each child before, during and after the divorce to explain their side of “what is happening” and assure each child it absolutely isn’t the child’s fault, etc. It’s best to confront it head on and address the child’s questions and fears.

We all have our stories to tell when it comes to our children in a divorce. While she seems to have a very adult outlook, she is effected.

Each family will be different depending on the number of children, their ages and genders. It helps if both parents play a supportive role but some of us have to raise them on our own.

Now that my sons are raised, my ex likes to be with them as he is so proud of the boys. He was not there when they grew up. His bride had him raise her kids and then she dumped him. In the end, he lost out because he missed so much. My sons never discuss with me but they know what Mom did for them.

I believe the children do end up with scars no matter what the parents do.

Life is not a perfect world and we have to live through the of the actions but always let them know how much you love them.

I think they need to remember why they got married. I think people need good counseling before they get married. 1. choose wisely.2 If you truly do things that make him happy and he truly does the same for you 3 and don’t take yourself so serious 4 laugh a lot. 5Remember that you vowed before God and family and friends.6 Love uncondtionally. and ask yourself would you want to come home everyday to you, ifthe answer is no, only you can change it. Our children need parents that they can count on. All this divorce is weakening our country and our future generations

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