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Holiday Divorce Ritual

Category : Divorce Ritual, Holidays

The Jewish community enjoys going out for Chinese food and a movie on Christmas Day. If you’re recently divorced and don’t want to stay home for the holidays, this divorce ritual is about making a reservation.  You probably haven’t had Chinese food on Christmas Day before, but you will enjoy the meal.  As you can see by the photo above, they appreciate it!

For more holiday divorce rituals, pick up my new book “The Divorce Ritual: Get Up, Get Out and Get On With Your Life” by clicking here.

New Article for Divorced Moms

Category : Children, Holidays

I have written a new article for DivorcedMoms.com.  It’s entitled, “Divorce Rituals Can Help Your Kids Navigate the Holidays.”

Being divorced during the holidays can be really difficult for you and your children, especially during that first year after the divorce.  You have an obligation to help your kids move forward and deal with the fact that their parents just got divorced.  The holidays are a time that children want to be around their family.  It can take some time to get adjusted to not having their parents together.  You need to try to keep things comfortable for them as you navigate your ex and keep a peaceful and festive atmosphere around your home.

Whether you’re getting along or not with your ex at this time, the interests of your kids comes first. They will want to see their cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents on both sides as they have always done on the holidays.  So you need to communicate with your ex about making the time as stress free as possible – Christmas Eve with one parent, Christmas day with the other, etc. The goal is to make the holidays as smooth, fun and comfortable as possible for the kids.

To read the rest of the article click here.

Khloe Kardashian Has Filed For Divorce

Category : Celebrity, Huffington Post

Khloe Kardashian has filed for divorce. According to The Huffington Post:

Reports surfaced early Friday that the 29-year-old would finally end their union after spending months apart from the NBA star, who has reportedly been battling drug addiction.

“Khloe has been very, very hurt by everything,” a source previously told E! News about the relationship. “There is a lot about Lamar that she is just learning and if they have any chance of making this work, there is a lot they need to come to terms with.”

To read more click here.

Meet Someone New During the Holidays

Category : Holidays, Huffington Post

Here is my latest article for The Huffington Post entitled “10 Ways To Meet Someone New During The Holidays.”

A really good thing to know about being single during the holidays is that you’re not the only one. There are other people who are not in a relationship during this holiday season and are looking to get to know someone new over eggnog.

The holidays are a great time of the year to meet people. From shopping to dinners to holiday parties, there’s a festive spirit in the air. You don’t have to only think about meeting a new love interest at these places. You can also make new friends and maybe that new friend may know someone you might like to go on a date with. It’s the season to spread holiday cheer and be open to new adventures. So enjoy going out in your area! Here are 10 ways you might meet someone new during the holidays.

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Divorce Among Baby Boomers

Category : News

Here is a recent CNN article written by Pepper Schwartz (professor of sociology at the University of Washington and the author or co-author of 19 books) about divorce entitled, “Why are baby boomers so divorce-prone?”:

(CNN)A recent article in The New York Times noted that the nation’s divorce rate — which plateaued for years at around 50% — has significantly dropped — to just above 40%. As almost an aside, the writer mentioned that only one group, the 50-plusers, have seen their rate of divorce surge 50% in the past 20 years.

Oops — to this boomer, that is “burying the lead.” Why would only the boomers have a significant growth in marital dissolution — one in four divorces after age 50 — while other ages do not?

After all, it’s counterintuitive: Traditionally marriages are most vulnerable to divorce in the first seven to 10 years.

To read the rest of the article click here.

Quote of the Day

Category : Quote Of The Day

“My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” – Oprah Winfrey

Huffington Post Women Section

Category : Huffington Post

My latest article for The Huffington Post is entitled, “15 Things Not To Do After A Breakup.” This is my first article for the “Women” section.

Realize that while the breakup was traumatic, you can go forward and move into the new life that you want. Please send this article to anyone you think it would help.

After a breakup, it’s so easy to feel depressed and alone. It’s important to take matters into your own hands and pull yourself back together as quickly as possible. Realize that while it was traumatic, you can go forward and move into the new life that you want.

You don’t want to make the same mistakes again that you made in your last relationship, so you have to think about what went wrong. If you haven’t figured it out, odds are that you’ll make the same mistakes as before. And if you haven’t learned that yet, perhaps you haven’t done enough work on yourself. There are things that you can do that are self-destructive after a breakup that make it impossible to have another relationship.

To read the rest of the article click here.

New Huffington Post Article

Category : Huffington Post

If you or someone you know is getting a divorce, my latest article for The Huffington Post covers 5 positive things that come out of a first marriage:

Almost everybody I’ve come across who’s over 50 and was going through their first divorce said adamantly, “I will never get married again.” A few years later, I’ve been to the weddings of many of those people. After you’ve been through a divorce, it takes a lot of soul searching to make any post-divorce relationship a permanent one. However, many people seem to be willing to take that step. Having been married once before, you gain a lot of experience and, hopefully, spent some time working on yourself to find out what went wrong so that you can make the new marriage positive. By the way, when I got divorced I said I would never marry again. The second time has been the charm for me!

To read the rest of the article click here.

Divorce Ritual: Fly Fly Away

Category : Divorce Party, Healing

I threw a divorce party recently for a client and there was lots of humor and healing! One of the reasons my divorce parties are unique from others is because of the rituals that my divorcees perform during each event. Not only do they bring structure to the party, but each ritual performed gives way to more and more healing for the divorcee — the notion of moving on! I am always amazed at how much other guests, who are divorced but didn’t have a divorce party, healed and had closure after being at a friends divorce party.

One of the rituals that is always a hit is Fly Fly Away. Here are the steps:

Step 1) On small pieces of paper, the divorcee should write all of the things she disliked about her ex.

Step 2) On small pieces of paper the guests should write down all of the wonderful things that they want for the divorcee’s new life.

Step 3) Everybody should roll up the little pieces of paper and put them into the balloons.

Step 4) Blow up the balloons and tie a string around each one.

Step 5) The divorcee should go outside with everyone at the party and let the balloons go into the sky.

Greeting Card For Your Ex?

Category : Holidays

Do you still send your ex a holiday card after a divorce? For years, I just let the holidays go by. Then, I realized that we had spent so many holidays and birthdays together. You just can’t forget the whole thing.

I did some thinking about it. I vote on sending your ex a card. I believe that you seem like the bigger person. But I don’t recommend sending a holiday card with a photo on the cover of you and your new lover on vacation. You might want to send something a bit more conservative.

Consider this card a peace offering (see the card above)!

Now, if your ex has a current significant other you may want to take that into consideration. They may get upset if you send your ex a card. So if your ex will wind up getting into an argument, you may not want to send a holiday card. Or, on second thought, you may definitely want to send one.