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Thanksgiving As A New Divorcee

Category : Holidays, Huffington Post

Thanksgiving Day

I wrote an article for The Huffington Post about divorce and Thanksgiving. If you’re newly divorced, it may be helpful. Hope you enjoy it!:

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, it’s time to start thinking about what you’re thankful for this year. If you’re newly divorced, you’re probably thankful to be free and moving on. However, the holidays can still be a difficult time for anybody who has been recently divorced. In fact, Thanksgiving kicks off the string of holidays that I like to refer to as “the big four” — Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and Valentine’s Day.

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Drinking and Divorce

Category : Divorce Rate, News

There’s a recent study that came out that discusses drinking in marriage and how the divorce rate is raised if only one spouse drinks heavily. If they both drink, it’s not a problem. In a new article by Science 2.0, they write:

Drinking and marriage don’t mix – unless both spouses do, according to a recent paper by the University at Buffalo Research Institute on Addictions (RIA) which followed 634 couples from the time of their weddings through the first nine years of marriage.

The results: couples where only one spouse was a heavy drinker had a much higher divorce rate than other couples but if both spouses were heavy drinkers, the divorce rate was the same as for couples where neither were heavy drinkers.

Over the course of the nine-year study, nearly 50 percent of couples where only one partner drank more heavily wound up divorcing, while the divorce rates for other couples was only 30 percent. “Heavy drinking” was defined as drinking six or more drinks at one time or drinking to intoxication.
The study controlled for factors such as marijuana and tobacco use, depression and socioeconomic status, which can also be related to marital dissatisfaction, separation and divorce.

“Our results indicate that it is the difference between the couple’s drinking habits, rather than the drinking itself, that leads to marital dissatisfaction, separation and divorce,” said Kenneth Leonard, PhD, RIA director and lead author of the study. “This research provides solid evidence to bolster the commonplace notion that heavy drinking by one partner can lead to divorce. Although some people might think that’s a likely outcome, there was surprisingly little data to back up that claim until now.”

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My Article About “Enough Said” in The Huffington Post

Category : Huffington Post, Movies

My latest article for the Huffington Post was just put online. It’s entitled “What the Movie Enough Said Tells Us About Exes and Relationships.” Here is some of the article:

The movie Enough Said is the perfect example of what is right for one person may not be right for someone else.
James Gandolfini plays Albert. His character is a little quirky, but warm and loving. Catherine Keener plays his ex, a poet named Marianne. Her character is more brittle, judgmental and cold. A massage therapist named Eva, played by Julia Louis-Dreyfus, meets exes Albert and Marianne separately at the same party. Eva doesn’t realize the connection between them as she begins to date Albert and simultaneously is hired by Marianne to give her massages.
To read the rest of the article click here.

A New Divorce Ritual

Category : Divorce Ritual, Ex-Spouse, The Divorce Ritual

We all spend a lot of time on our cell phones.  Yesterday, while going to my “favorites,” I realized there’s another ritual that is dramatic and quite serious.  This Divorce Ritual is called “Not a ‘Favorite’ Any Longer” and it involves deleting your ex from your list of favorites on your phone. While it only takes you one second to hit the delete button, it can take a long time to finally get to this point.  How many times have you looked at that name and dialed it? As the divorce proceeded, how many times did you look at that name and feel really sad, mad and angry?  Delete it!  Imagine how healing this can be.  You don’t have to open your phone and see your ex’s name.  Obviously, they’re not your “favorite” any longer, so get rid of them and find a new favorite friend to take their place!

Nigella Lawson Does Not Speak Out About Her Ex

Category : Celebrity

Celebrity chef Nigella Lawson is keeping quiet after her split from her ex Charles Saatchi.  Vanity Fair is planning on running an article about their split and she chose not to cooperate with them. It appears that Vanity Fair will go along with the article anyway.

Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise handled their divorce well. But whether you are celebrities or not, saying bad things about your ex will only hurt the kids.

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The Next Chapter Podcast

Category : Divorce Party, Divorce Ritual, Holidays

I recently did a podcast interview with The Next Chapter, a wonderful site that helps women through divorce. We discuss my book “The Divorce Ritual: Get Up, Get Out and Get On With Your Life” as well as share some helpful tips. You can listen to it by clicking here. Follow The Next Chapter on twitter.

HuffPost Live Today at 4PM EST

Category : Divorce Party, Huffington Post

I will be on HuffPost Live today at 4pm EST discussing divorce parties and my book “The Divorce Ritual.”