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How to Enjoy the Summer While Getting Divorced

Category : Break-Up, Friends and Divorce, Happiness, Health

If you are going through a divorce, you can’t let it take over your life. It’s time to enjoy summer and my latest article for The Huffington Post has some suggestions on you can have fun! Pass this article along to anyone you know who is going through a divorce. Thanks!

While everyone hopes for a quick divorce settlement, it can drag on and take over your time, mind and emotions. It’s up to you to “divorce your divorce.”  It’s inevitable for it to go on, but you can’t let it take over your life.  If you have children, you can’t be in a bad mood around them.  If you are working, you can’t act upset or depressed at the office. When the divorce affects your daily life, you have to do your best to keep it in the correct prospective. It may sound difficult to do, but when you set your mind to it you will be pleased at how much better you will feel. By not letting your divorce take over your life, you can move forward more quickly.

The divorce will eventually be completed and if you don’t live your life during the divorce process, you will look back and be mad at yourself. So how do you live your life during a divorce? Here are seven ways to help you divorce your divorce and enjoy summer.

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Divorce at Your Wedding

Category : Children, Ex-Spouse, Friends and Divorce, Wedding Bands, Wedding Dress

Marriage is one of the most momentous times in someone’s life. However, when the bride or groom has to navigate the event around their divorced parents things can get difficult.

In a recent New York Times article entitled, “Divorce Whisperer: Mediating with Parents Isn’t Easy,” they look into how divorce in a family can really affect the wedding. For example, there’s lots to think about when making a wedding seating chart because some parents just don’t talk after a divorce.  In the Times article, etiquette expert Peggy Post said. “There are all kinds of minefields, from where does everyone sit to the receiving line.  It’s particularly tricky when estranged parents do not want to be in the vicinity of each other.”

Not all weddings have divorce negativity.  One of the most heartwarming stories in the article involved Zinzi Edmundson who getting married this summer and was nervous when she let her biological father know that her stepfather would marry the couple. She said in the article, “In essence, my dad, who does not wear his heart on his sleeve, said that he appreciated that my stepdad had been there for me for all those years. He even offered that they co-walk me down the aisle. I didn’t anticipate that at all and it was such a sweet gesture.”

I would say the moral for of the story for the divorced parents out there is that this marriage is not about you. Put your issues aside and keep the aisle clear! I know it’s easy to say, but the moment you don’t let it bother you shows you have moved on with your own life.  And that is a great wedding gift for your child!

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Best Day to Break-Up

Category : Break-Up, Your Tango

There is one day of the week to break-up that is better than the others. Which one? Check out my latest article for YourTango to find out the answer. Here is some of that article below:

The day of the week that you officially split from your mate can certainly help a lot with your recovery.  Monday is a terrible day to break-up because Monday’s are just terrible to begin with.  Tuesday is just as bad because you have the entire week ahead of you to be upset at work.  If you break-up with your boyfriend mid-week on a Wednesday, you will probably not want to finish out the work week.  You don’t want to break-up on the weekend because it will ruin two valuable days that are yours.

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Living Under the Same Roof Post-Divorce

Category : Children, Ex-Spouse, Favorite Articles, Huffington Post

Have you heard of ex-spouses still living together after a divorce? It’s happening often these days. Check out my latest article for The Huffington Post that covers this trend. Here is some of my article below:

With the difficult economy, you hear about more and more couples who get divorced and find themselves still living under the same roof.  Often, this is due to financial issues and the inability to sell their home (probably their largest single asset) in a bad real estate market.

With few options available, the most obvious one is for two people to live together in the family home as they wait for it to sell.  If you have children, I think this situation must be really difficult to maneuver .  The divorce is confusing enough for kids to understand without compounding the problem by their parents still living together.  If there are no children, it may be easier to take this path for a short while.  Either way, I can’t imagine it being a picnic living with your ex after a divorce. If you are forced to do this for the time being, here are some tips that may help keep the household peaceful.

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