After a divorce, many couples play games with each other instead of focusing on keeping things healthy for the kids. Get your priorities set when it comes to life after a divorce. Check out some tips from my latest Huffington Post article that will help you have the same parenting ideas moving forward as your ex-spouse.
No More Ex Games
While you and your ex-spouse would ideally like to harmoniously co-parent your children, raw emotions from a divorce can often be unpredictable and take over.
If anger exists between you and your ex, it may trickle down to the children. And game playing between you and your former spouse can be more trying on your kids than you can imagine. There should be no “ex games” when it comes to your children. Your children should never be caught in the middle of problems with your ex.
Here are seven things that you and your ex-spouse can do to make things more civilized for the kids.
Plan together: Put any bad feelings aside and create an organized plan with your ex regarding birthdays and holidays. The more organized you both are for these occasions, the better it will be for the kids.
Limit the questions: When the kids come home from visiting your ex, there’s no reason to pepper them with questions about the time they spent there. Listen to them if they want to talk about it, but don’t cross-examine them.
Keep your feelings to yourself: Don’t speak badly about your ex in front of your kids. This will put your children in an uncomfortable position, and you want them to have a healthy relationship with the both of you.
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If you are going through a divorce I am sure you are having many difficult moments. It’s important to be happy as much as you possibly can because being depressed can take a toll on your body and mind. It has been reported that health and happiness are both connected to diet. Increasing your daily dose of fresh veggies and fruits can make a big difference. In a recent study, the University of Warwick’s 7 a-Day for Happiness and Mental Health, they analyzed the diets of 80,000 people and came to this answer.
Study author and PhD of University of Warwick Andrew Oswald said “This study has shown surprising results, and I have decided it is prudent to eat more fruit and vegetables. I am keen to stay cheery.”
So if you are down during a divorce start eating more vegetables and fruits! (But I think they forgot chocolate on the list…oh well.)
On an interview with Wendy Williams, “Happily Divorced” star and TV veteran and divorcee Fran Drescher says she is looking for a man who has the “Five S’s.” What are they? (I was wondering the same thing.) Fran says, “Sexy, smart, successful, single and straight.” As we know, Fran’s first husband ended up coming out. It was the basis for her new hit show on TV Land.
To watch the interview click here.
I want to thank everyone who watched my video on AOL’s hit series “You’ve Got…” I had over 941,000 views. I am so happy that my message of “celebrating your divorce” has reached so many people . And, above all, I hoped it helped! Divorce is a dificult time and, at some point, you have to laugh again. If you know anyone going through a divorce or a break up please send them the link to my AOL video below as well as the link to my book “The Divorce Ritual.”
AOL “You’ve Got…” video link.
“The Divorce Ritual” link.
I read an interesting article in The New York Times today. A couple in Spain was desperate to get divorced. The wife had met and fallen in love with another man and her husband had lost his job. They were struggling to make ends meet and couldn’t sell their house. They were stuck in this dire situation for over two years!
Sadly, this has become a frequent problem in Spain because the economy has gotten so bad there. But this is also a problem in the US. Many couples stay together because their biggest asset — their house – is impossible to sell. I cannot imagine how having to stay with someone you had fallen out of love with and not being able to move forward with your life. This must be so incredibly difficult for a couple. It’s a lesson to not live above your means and to always be self sufficient in a relationship so nothing but love is tieing you together.
Reality-TV star Brandi Glanville of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills announced via Twitter that she is donating the gown she wore during her wedding to her ex-spouse Eddie Cibrian. She decided to donate her wedding dress two years after the divorce was finalized. Glanville wrote, “I donated my wedding gown to a soon to be army wife & I still haven’t heard about who received it! Well I hope it makes someone very happy.”
This shows that even two years after a divorce is finalized there is still some healing to do. I think it is definitely a good idea to get rid of the wedding dress if looking at it brings on too many stressful memories. Not to mention, if you want to get married again I doubt you would wear the dress a second time. To read more about Glanville donating her dress click here.
Hi all, happy New Year! If you haven’t had a chance to watch my video for AOL’s “You’ve Got” series please do. It will help people going through a divorce. You can watch it by clicking here. Please pass it along. Thanks!