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Throw A Halloween Divorce Party

Category : Celebrity, Divorce Party, Holidays, SheKnows

Find out how to plan your Halloween Divorce Party by reading my latest article for SheKnows.com by clicking here.

A New Review for The Divorce Ritual

Category : Books, Divorce Ritual

When you write a book, I’ve learned that a great review can certainly make your day. Well, this recent review on Amazon.com by Grady Harp made my month. He is a male reader who really understood the book and what I was trying to offer readers. Thank you, thank you, thank you Grady! Appreciate you taking the time to read the book and writing such a thoughtful review. Here it is…

REVIEW OF THE DIVORCE RITUAL

An Ubeat Climb Out of Divorce
 

Lois Tarter has been there, done that, and now she shares her experiences on dealing with the growing popular condition called Divorce. In this easy to read book she outlines why divorce can be a beginning – a pathway out of a life that has grown unfulfilling into a new world of freedom and growth – and celebration.

Tarter takes it from the top – the immediate response to divorce, dealing and coping with the change and then deciding to chin up and take this new stage in life as a time for growth. Her statistics about the divorce rate may astound some, and may challenge others to consider whether sticking with a marriage gone sour is worth the personal and conjoined agony, and then having the big intake of breath that starts a whole new way of looking at freedom.

Her `rituals’ are at once meaningful and often funny – getting rid of the clothes of the partner departed, redoing your home to be you and not the past `we’, making all manner of changes in lifestyle that allow new friends to enter as well as dealing with past `shared friends’, mending fences, etc. As she states when discussing her own divorce, `I needed something that was less like jumping off a bridge and more like climbing a mountain. After a divorce, it’s important to feel like you’re making progress. These rituals will help you move forward and you’ll enjoy an incredible sense of accomplishment every time you complete one.’

Tarter lists 13 ways/rituals to `clean house’, then proceeds to show how to heal with feeling – including online dating, playing old movies that make divorce an up front topic, how to survive your first apart Valentine’s Day, delete instant messaging, throw a divorce party, getting involved in activities such as yoga, how to deal with holidays – all manner of self improvement.

Tarter keeps it light and this book is best suited for women – both with and without children (and she discusses dealing with children in a brief but informed manner). But as other men who are either in the throes of divorce or past the initial stun gun effect, this information is easily transferable. This is a focused self-help book directed at a specific audience. On target and witty, it should do well. Grady Harp, October 12

 
To pick up The Divorce Ritual click here.

Halloween Isn’t Scary If You’re Divorced

Category : Holidays

Halloween is right around the corner and if you’re newly divorced and have young children, it’s sure to be an adjustment during this holiday for your kids. When it comes to trick-or-treating you probably went with your husband and kids throughout the neighborhood or apartment complex as a family. Just because you’re not married any longer does not mean the trick-or-treating stops.

If you can get together with your ex and bring the kids out together that would be great.  If you and your ex aren’t on the best of terms, you should have the kids go trick-or-treating twice.  Spend and hour in your neighborhood and ask your spouse to pick up the kids and have them spend in hour in their neighborhood.  Twice the treats for the kids and the holiday still goes on! So make some plans this week with your ex if you haven’t already and put the kids first. Holidays are the times you all need to be civil and come together.

Russell Crowe calls it quits

Category : Celebrity

Russell Crowe Wife

After nine years of marriage, actor Russell Crowe is divorcing his wife Danielle Spencer. The couple, who met over 20 years ago on a film set, have two children together. Another marriage in Hollywood down the tubes. Marriages in Hollywood keep falling apart. Crowe seems to making movies all over the world, so time away from home certainly doesn’t help a relationship.  All relationships need work. I hope they keep things civil for the children.

The Vagina Monologues

Category : Break-Up, Celebrity

 

Olivia Wilde is one divorcee who has spoken openly about her break-up. She continues to share her inner most thoughts and feelings in the press about getting divorced and I have to say her musings are pretty funny. Her latest was shared when addressing the crowd at Joes Pub in NYC the other night.  She expressed how things were going with her ex at the end of her marriage, ”I felt like my vagina died.” Some of Olivia’s other revelations…

On knowing your marriage is over: “And you can lie to your relatives at Christmas dinner and tell them everything on the home front is just peachy. But you cannot lie to your vagina.”

On keeping the spark alive: “In Olivia Land, relationships can legally only last seven years, without an option to renew. That way it never goes stale. Can you imagine, if we only had seven years? We’d be so nice to each other, so kind, and appreciative and enthusiastic, like we were eating a really expensive bowl of pasta!”

To read more from Vulture click here.

Devito and Perlman Split

Category : Celebrity

Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman have separated after 30 years of marriage. They have been one of Hollywood’s most solid couples.  It’s a shame that this has happened. After so many years together, many are asking why end it?  And why now? FOX News asked the question “Is nothing sacred?” in their article today about the split. But maybe they put a lot of thought into it and they wanted to live this stage of their lives alone. Once the kids are grown many couples begin to look at their lives together and see if it is really working as they head into the next phase of their life.  Maybe they were heading in different directions.     

He Said, Not She Said

Category : Books, Celebrity

When a divorce occurs both sides have their own stories about the turn of events.  And both spouses are entitled to have their own stories.  However, when you start sharing those stories with friends, family and the public things can get sticky for everyone.

Arnold Schwarzenneger’s new book “Total Recall” is filled with lots of stories (656 pages) from his career, marriage and break-up that the media is finding pretty juicy right now.  I had heard that Maria Schriver didn’t want him to come out with the book.  Hey, Aronld, if you want to get back with your ex and make things work, it’s probably not a good idea to come out with a tell-all book.  This brings up a bigger question…when a couple is in the media should they speak about their ex-spouse when a divorce occurs? I feel like they shouldn’t. At the end of the day, if you’re an actor you should focus on your acting. If you’re a singer, you should focus on your singing. You shouldn’t have to speak about a divorce to keep yourself in the media.
if you’re not a famous person, I still think you should keep the details of your divorce to yourself.  If you have children, (like Arnold does) it’s even more important to keep things private In Arnold and Maria’s case it’s “He said, Not She said.” Maria is taking the high road and I commend her for it.

Los Angeles Times columnist Steve Lopez did a recent article about the release of the book.  He wrote, “In his new book, “Total Recall,” former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger explains why he didn’t want to talk to the media when it was discovered that he had fathered a child with the family housekeeper. “I wanted to protect my family’s privacy,” Schwarzenegger writes, “which remains a priority of mine today.” That being the case, a question comes to mind. If Schwarzenegger wants to protect his family’s privacy, what was he doing on “60 Minutes” Sunday night, talking about that affair and admitting to a number of others? The simplest answer, I suppose, is that he was promoting the book. But that raises another question: If Schwarzenegger cares about his wife and their four kids — or his former mistress and the child she had with him — why write the book at all?

Good question, Steve. I am wondering the same thing and I suppose so is everybody else.  So much for being a good politician Arnold.

Lindsay Channels Liz

Category : Celebrity, Movies

Lindsay Lohan takes on Elizabeth Taylor — one of the most divorced celeb women in Hollywood history – in the anticipated Lifetime movie “Liz & Dick”. The film covers their topsy-turby relationship. Here is the films description:  

On the set of Cleopatra, Hollywood’s most beautiful star, Elizabeth Taylor, fell into the arms of one of the world’s greatest actors, Richard Burton – and she didn’t leave. Their subsequent white-hot, scandalous love affair gave rise to the paparazzi and they became the most hunted and photographed couple on earth. Their rocky, passionate, relationship, born in front of the cameras, was subsequently captured in a series of films, including The V.I.P.s and Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? The last of the great, extravagant stars, flaunting diamonds, yachts and private planes, they continually seized the headlines. They even divorced and married again – only to divorce again – but remain in each other’s hearts. This Elizabeth Taylor – Richard Burton story is a no-holds barred account of their undying, but impossible love.

The film will be released November 3rd. To watch some behind the scene footage click here.