It seems that since 2012 started there has been an onslaught in the media of high profile celebrity divorces. Heidi Klum & Seal and Katy Perry & Russell Brand as well as rumors surfacing about a slew of others, the year has just begun and divorce lawyers seem very busy in Tinseltown. What is the sudden rush by so many to get divorced? Are celeb couples looking to start to the new year as a single person?
Sure there have always been a lot of divorces in Hollywood, but it seems like there are so many more as of late. It got me wondering what the current divorce rate is with celebrity couples. While it’s just over 50% in the America right now, I assumed it was a bit more for star couples specifically. Well, I found out the numbers and the results are staggering. “The divorce rate among celebrities may be as high as 80 percent,” said celebrity divorce lawyer Raul Felder. Is it the temptations that go along with fame? Do celebs get married for image rather than love? I can’t imagine what it must be like to be the children of celebrities with divorce being at such a high percentage.
With marriages in Hollywood currently standing at a 20% chance of surviving, would you still get married if you were a celebrity?
How do you move on from your ex? Did you ever think of purging him or her from your life? Please check out my latest article in the Huffington Post entitled “EX-Foliate” by clicking here.
My latest article was posted on the More magazine website. It’s entitled “The Back to Work Divorcee.” Find out how to be healthy 9 to 5 at the office by clicking here.
Heidi Klum and her husband Seal look to be headed for divorce. They married in 2005 and had three children together. This is big divorce news! Many people are shocked by this split.
Seal and Klum renewed their wedding vows in May 2011, something they did every year. Traditionally, the couple wore some kind of costume for it. Speaking of costumes, they had their yearly halloween party that was always one of the biggest and their costumes were beyond creative. They always seemed so happy in interviews with lots of hugging and kissing. A shame that this had to end. Maybe they can work this out. Fingers crossed for them and their family.
In a statement Sunday night, the couple announced their separation.
“While we have enjoyed seven very loving, loyal and happy years of marriage, after much soul searching we have decided to separate,” the joint statement read. “We have had the deepest respect for one another throughout our relationship and continue to love each other very much, but we have grown apart. This is an amicable process and protecting the well-being of our children remains our top priority, especially during this time of transition. We thank our family, friends, and fans for their kind words of support. And for our children’s sake, we appreciate you respecting our privacy.”
If you been through a divorce and decided to keep and live in the marital residence, it’s often not easy at first. Many can’t afford a complete home makeover and feel a bit uncomfortable in the same house now that they are alone. It’s important to change things around a bit and there are lots of ways that don’t cost any money.
You have rearranged your life by getting a divorce, so it would be great to rearrange your furniture as well! It’s a simple, cost-effective and positive way to get some new atmosphere going in your dwelling. Moving things from one room to another and switching the position of the couch and the television can really do a lot to make you feel like the home is yours and you’re moving on.
The folks over at apartmenttherapy.com had some great tips for rearranging your furniture:
• Have a friend help. It makes moving heavy pieces a lot easier, it provides you with a second opinion, and it gives you the energy to keep going.
• Map out ideas with a sketch or a free online program (like this Arrange-a-Room planer).
• Have a plan, but don’t be afraid to change it. We never know what something’s going to look like until we see it in place.
• Use your largest pieces as anchors for the space. Move sofas, large tables, and large storage pieces first and rearrange your smaller furniture around them.
• Clear out space. If an arrangement isn’t working, try removing one or two pieces of furniture. Many people have too much furniture, and by taking a big item out of the equation you can open up a whole new set of possibilities.
• Don’t be afraid of empty space. If you really need a new piece to make your furniture arrangement work, leave that space empty for a little while, and take some time to find the right item.
There is a lot of divorce in hollywood. And Hollywood is also a small town, especially during awards season. A probably uncomfortable encounter happened over the weekend. At the CAA party it was reported by People Magazine that “Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore found themselves just feet away from each other Friday at the CAA/Grey Goose Pre-Golden Globes bash at Soho House.” Kutcher even chatted with her daughter Rumer Willis. Are things on pleasant terms? Or is it just business as usual?
Whether you’re at a swanky Hollywood party or at the grocery store (I’d probably choose the party), it’s never easy running into an ex-husband or ex-wife. How do you approach them? What do you talk about? Depending on how long has passed can ease the awkwardness. In this case, Demi and Ashton files in November, which is pretty fresh. What if you have children together? Then, you have probably been in contact. Ashton and Demi don’t have any children together. What if you have a business together still? They may have had business dealings, but that can be settled and buy each other out. Regardless, keeping things civil is the way to go. If it’s at the grocery store may ask your ex if they saw any good sales there? Hey, you may both be on a budget, right? Just take a deep breath, act natural and be glad you been doing pilates three times a week since the divorce (eat your heart out)!
My ex-husband and I were friends with a married couple for a long time. We got divorced and they didn’t. In fact, they are still married till this day! Even though I got remarried and, so did my ex, we both amazingly stayed friends with this married couple. My husband and I go out to dinner with them. My ex-husband and his wife go out to dinner with them. This is a great example of friends who do not pick sides after a divorce.
Depending on how bad the break-up was, friends tend to feel awkward staying friends with both exes. When you bring new spouses into the mix, it can get even more awkward. Friends will tend to pick sides at that moment, probably because it’s easiest and less complicated. However, some people, like my friends, go with their heart. They care for both of us and they want to see both of us, so they do! Remember, sometimes life is as complicated as we make it.
What do you think about friend’s picking sides once the divorce happens?
Demi Moore graces the cover of the February issue of Harper’s Bazaar. The piece was done right after she filed for divorce. With the wounds still fresh, she offered up some of her thoughts about various things, including her insecurities about love, “I would say what scares me is that I’m going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I’m really not lovable, that I’m not worthy of being loved. That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me.” Moore’s response to freedom was equally interesting, “Letting go of the outcome. Truly being in the moment. Not reflecting on the past. Not projecting into the future. That’s freedom. Not caring more about what other people think than what you think. That’s freedom.”
Moore has more healing to do, but for now she is staying strong. As for all of the reports about her dramatic weight loss, she said, “You can’t look at yourself in the mirror and tear your body apart. You have to look at it and go, ‘thank you.’”
One of the most worthwhile books of 2011, is Goldie Hawn’s 10 Mindful Minutes: Giving Our Children – and Ourselves – the Social and Emotional Skills to Reduce Stress and Anxiety for Healthier, Happier Lives. Hawn took a step away from acting to focus on The Hawn Foundation, where her mission statement is, “Our mission is to help young minds by nurturing resilience, hope, and optimism.” With things moving so quickly more than ever these days, Hawn shows us ways to refocus our energy. In the book, the 66 year old actress – who looks amazing, by the way – offers her insights on how our thoughts and emotions affect everything else, including our focus and stress levels. She has a scientific approach that is not preachy, but enlightening. Hawn shares an important message for all of us and our children in this book. Pick it up because it’s a great read to start the new year.
Here is the book description:
Across the country, the revolutionary MindUP program, which was developed under the auspices of the Hawn Foundation, established by Goldie Hawn, is teaching children vital social and emotional skills. By understanding how their brains work, children discover where their emotions come from and become more self-aware. They learn to appreciate the sensory aspects of their lives and to value the positive effects of mindfulness, compassion, and kindness. This, in turn, empowers them to manage and reduce their own stress-and helps them be happy.
Those who have seen the remarkable effects of this program have been eager to learn how to implement it in their own homes and use its practices for themselves, too. Now, for the first time, its secrets are being shared with all parents and children in 10 Mindful Minutes.
To pick up the book click here
Are you feeling blue about your divorce? Well you shouldn’t, but if you can’t shake it you should go with it! The new trend right now in fashion is blue nail polish. From Jessica Alba to Lady Gaga to Jessica Simpson (pictured above), everybody has gotten into the NEW BLUE. It’s a fun and fabulous color that can brighten up the dreary days of winter. It’s also a very versatile look. You can wear it for a night out or a day at the park. So add a little flavor to your fingernails and go blue!