It was announced today that singer Katy Perry and comedian Russell Brand are headed for divorce. As the year comes to a close, this is certainly one of the biggest break-ups of 2011. They were married in October 2010 and after 14-months as husband and wife, Brand filed for divorce today on the grounds of irreconcilable differences. He said in a statement, “Sadly, Katy and I are ending our marriage. I’ll always adore her and I know we’ll remain friends.”
This unfortunate break-up is yet another big divorce in Tinseltown in 2011, with Demi and Ashton, Arnold and Maria, Lopez and Anthony and Kardashian and Humphries all grabbing the biggest headlines. I hope the new year means new happiness for these people in the spotlight who I’m sure just want to move on. I would love to throw Katy a divorce party because that is one of the best ways to move on!
Well, you are now halfway there. You made it though the holidays and what I like to call the “fatal four” for new divorcees. You weathered Thanksgiving, you slid through Christmas, Hanukkah or Quanza, and now all you have left is New Year’s and Valentine’s Day. Then it’s smooth sailing from there. Well, more like an on the emotional ice rink.
Give your self some kuddos for making it through the first two holidays. It may not have gone completely smooth. The turkey may have been a bit overcooked, but who cares? It’s the start of the holidays as a single woman and you did it! Now it’s time to use the positive energy that you have created to help you gear up for the next two. New Year’s is this weekend, so get ready because it marks the beginning of the new year as well as your new life and you are not looking back!
Along with the holidays come lots of friends and family and a BIG feast. There’s nothing like spending the festive season surrounded by good lovin’ and good food in the oven. Now that you’re divorced, it’s even more important than ever to be around those who have your best interests close to their hearts. So if you followed one of my previous challenges “Accept All Invitations,” you have already RSVP’d for that holiday dinner with your loved ones who will be in attendance.
When you were married and hosted an event, your husband probably did the carving of the turkey, ham or whatever else you chose to eat for the holiday. This years Divorce Day Holiday Challenge #7 is to do the carving yourself. Get in there, stand in front of that meat and take the bull (no pun intended) by the horns and start cutting. If you’re vegetarian and have a tofu turkey, carve away baby! This is another sign that you now are on your own, independent and standing strong for the holidays in front of the dinner table with your friends and family looking on. Pass the dish along to your guests and know that whenyou cut each piece, you’re becoming more at peace with yourself . Enjoy the dinner, conversation and laughter because that’s what the holidays are all about.
I’m very happy and proud to say that my first article for the divorce section of The Huffington Post was posted today! It’s entitled, ’Tis The Season To Enjoy Your Divorce, and I discuss the ways you can embrace this time of year as a newly single woman. Please feel free to comment on the Huffington Post site. I would deeply appreciate your support. And I want to take a moment to say that I deeply appreciate the support you have given me all year! To read my article click here.
It might be an old saying, but laughter does really heal all. This challenge is about making funny a part of your holiday this week. What are some great ways to laugh your way through your first holiday after a divorce? On the 12th day of Christmas my true lovegave to me…tickets to a comedy club.
Divorce Day Holiday Challenge #6 is to go with a friend to a local comedy club. Sure your ex might have been a bone head, but forget about him by tickling your funny bone. Lots of comedy clubs offer reduced tickets and drink specials on weeknights. Look around for a fun place and have some laughs because that’s really what you need. Not to mention, they say a way to a woman’s heart is through laughter. Who knows? You may find a cute single comedian to curl up in front of the fire with. Now his jokes might not be as funny as you ex-father-in-law’s Christmas sweater you were forced to say how much you liked. But it’s a close second and the company is much better!
My latest article for More Magazine was just posted online. With so many marriages ending these days before they even seem to get started, I offer my tips on how to ”prevent a match made in divorce.” Take a read by clicking here.
Everybody is talking about the biggest celebrity divorces of 2011. That got me thinking about all of the couples who are happily unmarried in Hollywood? With all of the pressures of fame, maybe taking a walk down the aisle is not the best idea for a star couple. Here is my latest article for SheKnows that discusses this.
The holidays are coming closer and closer, so that brings us to Divorce Day Holiday Challenge #5! You will undoubtedly have to do some holiday food shopping for the family this year. In the past, you probably went with your husband to Costco to grab all of the goodies. Lots of big boxes and bargains filled your cart. This challenge is about doing the shopping all on your own.
Head over to Costco and pick up whatever you need. You can get whatever your heart desires there. You could literally furnish a house and feed a village all in one shopping experience. You can get holiday toys, food, cards, wrapping paper, drinks, appetizers and the list goes on and one. Now I know it’s a huge place and it can be taxing, but dig in and do it. Lugging the items into the car and loading them up. Taking many trips to get all of the bags and boxes into your home from the cold. Packing them into the fridge and the cabinets. The bright side is that there are no bags to clean up, but there are boxes to break down. Phew, you did it! While you’re catching your breath, you might be wondering what this challenge was about besides exhausting you. It’s about doing things by yourself once again. Making this holiday happen on your own for the children is a sign to them as well as yourself that you can do this and make it special. You are strong enough to make things the way they were on holidays for the kids before you got divorced. Relax with a glass of white wine when this is challenge is complete. I know that bag of coal that you’re giving to your ex was heavy! Seriously, take a moment to smell the roses — rather, the poinsettia – because you deserve it!
Putting up a Christmas tree the first time after a divorce is always an interesting experience. If the divorcee doesn’t have kids, she’ll tend to leave the holidays by the wayside. Well, don’t be a sap (no pun intended). Your Divorce Day Holiday Challenge #3 is to take tree trimming head-on!
The first step is getting a tree. Don’t do a fake one (it will remind you of your ex). You’re keeping it real, so your tree should be no exception. After you pick out a tree that’s full and fresh (just like your new life) it’s time to dress it up. When you break out the ornaments it might bring on a rush of emotions. Some you may have gotten together during your relationship. Try not to put those on the tree. Instead, I suggest buying a few new inexpensive ones to mark the beginning of your new holiday journey. If you have children, you can all try to make some homemade ornaments. There are a lot of fun sites on the Internet that offer instructions. Put on some holiday music and really get into it! Next, break out the stockings. When you come across your ex’s, it may upset you when you see it. Don’t let it. Instead put it to good use as firewood. Just toss it in the fire and toast a marshmellow over it. Don’t you love the holidays?!
The holidays are here and it’s time for all recent divorcees to make some plans. There’s no time to cry in your eggnog about your marriage that just ended. Instead, start your new life and the New Year off in an exciting way. Read my latest article for SheKnows for some ideas on how to get out of dodge this holiday and enjoy life!