Over this month, I am going to give new divorcees some holiday challenges that they should consider. These will not only get you re-acqainted to single life, but they will bring you some holiday cheer.
Your Divorce Day Holiday Challenge #1: Accept All Invitations.
A friend of mine whose divorce was just finalized in October reached out to me on Thanksgiving. It was great to hear from her, but she seemed a bit down because it was the first holiday of this season since her divorce. She said she felt a bit alone. I told her that this is understandable after a break-up, especially since she was married for 18 years. She also said she just got invited to a tree lighting party next week at a friends apartment in her Upper West Side neighborhood of Manhattan. She said she didn’t feel like going. I encouraged her to RSVP for that invite and all of the ones that will be coming her way this holiday season.
If you are recently divorced, the holidays are a difficult time as no one wants to be alone. However, as I told my friend, she is not alone. In fact, she already got invited to a party and it’s not even December yet! She has lots of great friends and they can’t want to see her. By the way, so do you!
I encourage you to accept all invitations that come your way this holiday season. That special someone is not going to crawl in your window or our of your chimney. So accepting all party invites is the first challenge and possibly the most important to kick off the holiday season. I don’t care if there are two parties you’re invited to in one night…go to both! A couple of hours here, a couple of hours there and those friendly smiling faces is what you will get you through this holiday season.