Marriage is one of the most momentous times in someone’s life. However, when the bride or groom has to navigate the event around their divorced parents things can get difficult.
In a recent New York Times article entitled, “Divorce Whisperer: Mediating with Parents Isn’t Easy,” they look into how divorce in a family can really affect the wedding. For example, there’s lots to think about when making a wedding seating chart because some parents just don’t talk after a divorce. In the Times article, etiquette expert Peggy Post said. “There are all kinds of minefields, from where does everyone sit to the receiving line. It’s particularly tricky when estranged parents do not want to be in the vicinity of each other.”
Not all weddings have divorce negativity. One of the most heartwarming stories in the article involved Zinzi Edmundson who getting married this summer and was nervous when she let her biological father know that her stepfather would marry the couple. She said in the article, “In essence, my dad, who does not wear his heart on his sleeve, said that he appreciated that my stepdad had been there for me for all those years. He even offered that they co-walk me down the aisle. I didn’t anticipate that at all and it was such a sweet gesture.”
I would say the moral for of the story for the divorced parents out there is that this marriage is not about you. Put your issues aside and keep the aisle clear! I know it’s easy to say, but the moment you don’t let it bother you shows you have moved on with your own life. And that is a great wedding gift for your child!
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