followUs followUs

The Things People Say (And Shouldn’t)

Category : Break-Up, Friends, Friends and Divorce, Lessons

A reader sent me a really funny article.  I was so happy that she shared it with me and I wanted to share it with you! It’s about the 10 things that you should NEVER ever say to a divorcee. We all want to be a friend to a friend in need, but sometimes people say things they really shouldn’t. This article was posted on the adorable and informative site Cafe Mom.

1. “Didn’t you see this coming from the beginning?” Busted! I glimpsed into the future and saw disaster and ruination but planned an entire life with him anyway because I enjoy a good crushing life-blow. Next time around, a little heads-up?

2. “I always hated [insert scorned spouse’s name here].” Do you mean you always hated the man who I thought I would love forever and said so in front of everyone I knew on the best day of my life? Gee, thanks. (If you chose to procreate with scorned spouse, this statement is 168 times more offensive.)

3. “OMG. Do you think I’ll get divorced, too?” The good news for you is that divorce is not contagious. The bad news is you may get divorced for being so damn insensitive and self-centered.

For the complete list and some more laughs click here.

Six Important Lessons To Avoid Divorce

Category : Celebrity, Favorite Articles, Lessons

Everyone has been covering the Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony split. As far as celebrity and divorce, it’s a major happening. While I haven’t covered it yet because I figured you have heard enough just like I have, there was one article written by Stu Gray that I thought was well done. He covers the six love lessons to take away from the J-Lo and Anthony divorce. Gray feels there is something new to learn from this split.

Here are some of his lessons from that article:

1. Know that the seven year mark is a difficult time. Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony were married seven years. Experts say that the 7 to 10 year mark is the time when many people start to think about jumping out of marriages. This was true in my own marriage. About 7 years in, I began searching for what could make my marriage better, thankfully, instead of deciding to give up. I decided to improve what we had. Know that these periods of time are going to come, and they are also going to pass. If you keep working on your marriage, and not looking for ways to eject from it, you will come out better on the other side.

2. A marriage isn’t a business deal. I don’t know all the details of the Marc Anthony and Jennifer Lopez marriage, and I don’t want to be too judgmental. But I do know that they are both very business savvy and make lots of money doing what they do. In reading about their split, I was reminded that there is always more than money at stake and “who gets what” when a marriage breaks up. Something does happen to the children. Even if the breakup is amicable, there will always be emotional scars. Talk to kids whose parents have been divorced. Even if the breakup was cordial, most will tell you that they wish it wouldn’t have happened.

For the entire list click here.