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The Ultimate Indignity

Category : Break-Up, Dating, Divorce Rate, Favorite Articles, Financial

Read an article in the Los Angeles Times about the fact that since the economy is getting better, divorce is going up. 

I had heard a while ago that so many people stayed married and living together because they couldn’t sell their home — their biggest asset.  Many of the couples stayed together and waited until they could get a price that made sense for them.  I actually met a woman who lived like that for about a year and a half.  It must have been quite an experience.  She would sort of slide out the backdoor when she had a date and then had to be pleasant when she returned.   Talk about a schizophrenic lifestyle.

Obviously, it’s not love that keeps some married people together.  To read the article in the Los Angeles times click here.

Dating Don’ts For Women Over 50

Category : Dating

My latest article was posted in The Huffington Post “50″ section. It covers dating don’ts:
Going from a divorce or a long-term relationship to dating again is not a simple lifestyle change. Women over 50 who haven’t been single for some time can easily fall into dating no-no’s. These can actually prevent them from meeting the kind of people that they’re looking for.

With the divorce rate getting higher every year, there are more opportunities for singles. And you would think that women who are older and have more experience wouldn’t make the same dating mistakes again. (Ha!) One of the first important steps toward starting a new relationship is getting rid of the dating don’ts.

To read the rest of the article click here.

Dating While the Divorce is Being Finalized

Category : Break-Up, Children, Dating, Huffington Post

My latest article is up and live on the Huffington Post! It’s entitled, “Dating During Divorce.”  It covers what you may want to consider about being ready or not to date while your divorce is being finalized:
People have mixed feelings about dating while going through the divorce process. While dating someone new can boost your confidence after a break-up, should you wait until the divorce is officially over before seeking out someone new?

Returning to the single life is a major adjustment. However, it also offers an exciting second chance at love. Some people have no issues dating before the divorce is final. Others would rather sign the divorce papers before moving ahead. And still others think they won’t date until the divorce is finalized, but they change their mind when they meet someone new. You just never know when fate will intervene and a new special person will come along.
Here are some reasons that dating during divorce may be the right choice for you:

To read the rest of the article click here.

The Simple Life

Category : A New You, Dating, Healing, Relaxation

Remember when you were back in your teen years and fell in love for the first time. All you wanted to do with your free time was spend it with your boyfriend. It didn’t matter if you were just sitting next to each other on his parents couch watching a movie or walking in the local park holding hands, even the uneventful things were an event.

As we get older, our expectations certainly rise for what we consider a good time or a memorable date in general. We expect much more out of a partner and often become entertainment directors ourselves in the process. However, let’s not forget about the simple things you can share as a couple in life. If you begin dating again after a divorce and find yourself falling for someone, I ask you to remember to go back to the simple enjoyments once in a while. Sure you can go to that new hot five star restaurant. A trip to Punta Cana is certainly memorable as well. But don’t forget a trip together to the local beach filled with kids and sand castles. Go to the supermarket together and cook a meal at home. Or, have a picnic in the park and enjoy the fall foliage or a spring breeze as a couple.

Living life to the fullest after a divorce is filling it with great people and simple pleasures that you can enjoy together.

Olivia Wilde Considers Dating Like A Shark Pool

Category : Celebrity, Dating, Favorite Articles

Actress Olivia Wilde has been opening up in the new issue of “Marie Claire” about divorcing her husband after eight years, whom she married when she was only 18. The 27-year-old actress said, “I’m trying to be adult, entering the shark pool of dating. But I’m hopeless at it.’

While Wilde is beautiful and linked to some of Hollywood’s most eligable and successful bachelors, she is just like every other girl after a divorce, finding it difficult to navigate romantic relationships again.  “The trauma of the whole thing has been humbling and for the first time I’m a little bit wobbly,’ she says. ‘But I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.’

She seems to be level-headed about dating and wants substance out of a relationship.  ‘I think of myself as being very cool and independent and not jealous, but I like clarity. I ask a lot of questions,” Wilde says.  “A guy recently said to me: ‘Maybe it’s because you were raised by journalists, but you really want facts!’”

What do you think about dating in 2011 after a divorce?