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New Divorce party game

Category : A New You, Break-Up, Divorce Party, Friends, Friends and Divorce, Moving On, Uncategorized

On first glance you may think you are seeing a mature “Girl Scouts Gone Wild” episode being filmed, but in reality you are most likely watching someone play Divorce Dares, the new wearable divorce party game from Burnsy Badges.   It features a beautiful black sash which proclaims “Just Divorced!” on the front with the phrase “Help me earn my Badges!” on the back. Badges? What badges??

This is where it gets interesting! The game comes with 60 adhesive badges that are illustrated to look like embroidered “Scout Style” patches. They have cute names and illustrations that each represent a particular dare or task the wearer must accomplish before the end of the nights festivities.
The Divorcee picks out 20 or so badges based on the name, color or whatever strikes her fancy and then places them on the front of the sash. The others girls in the party have the list which describes what each badge means and what she must do. Let the fun begin as they range from mild to wild and are pretty hilarious! The best part is that many of them require the assistance of a cute guy (or guys) to accomplish. The badges come off the sash as the dares are completed. The Divorcee can even take a pass and hand out up to three of the badges for other ladies in the group to accomplish in place of her. It’s a great way for the Divorcee to open up again, maybe try something new, and even our of her comfort zone, and get off to a fun, fresh start!”

Purchase Divorce Dares on the Burnsy Badges website here

How to Enjoy the Summer While Getting Divorced

Category : Break-Up, Friends and Divorce, Happiness, Health

If you are going through a divorce, you can’t let it take over your life. It’s time to enjoy summer and my latest article for The Huffington Post has some suggestions on you can have fun! Pass this article along to anyone you know who is going through a divorce. Thanks!

While everyone hopes for a quick divorce settlement, it can drag on and take over your time, mind and emotions. It’s up to you to “divorce your divorce.”  It’s inevitable for it to go on, but you can’t let it take over your life.  If you have children, you can’t be in a bad mood around them.  If you are working, you can’t act upset or depressed at the office. When the divorce affects your daily life, you have to do your best to keep it in the correct prospective. It may sound difficult to do, but when you set your mind to it you will be pleased at how much better you will feel. By not letting your divorce take over your life, you can move forward more quickly.

The divorce will eventually be completed and if you don’t live your life during the divorce process, you will look back and be mad at yourself. So how do you live your life during a divorce? Here are seven ways to help you divorce your divorce and enjoy summer.

To read the rest of the article click here.

Divorce at Your Wedding

Category : Children, Ex-Spouse, Friends and Divorce, Wedding Bands, Wedding Dress

Marriage is one of the most momentous times in someone’s life. However, when the bride or groom has to navigate the event around their divorced parents things can get difficult.

In a recent New York Times article entitled, “Divorce Whisperer: Mediating with Parents Isn’t Easy,” they look into how divorce in a family can really affect the wedding. For example, there’s lots to think about when making a wedding seating chart because some parents just don’t talk after a divorce.  In the Times article, etiquette expert Peggy Post said. “There are all kinds of minefields, from where does everyone sit to the receiving line.  It’s particularly tricky when estranged parents do not want to be in the vicinity of each other.”

Not all weddings have divorce negativity.  One of the most heartwarming stories in the article involved Zinzi Edmundson who getting married this summer and was nervous when she let her biological father know that her stepfather would marry the couple. She said in the article, “In essence, my dad, who does not wear his heart on his sleeve, said that he appreciated that my stepdad had been there for me for all those years. He even offered that they co-walk me down the aisle. I didn’t anticipate that at all and it was such a sweet gesture.”

I would say the moral for of the story for the divorced parents out there is that this marriage is not about you. Put your issues aside and keep the aisle clear! I know it’s easy to say, but the moment you don’t let it bother you shows you have moved on with your own life.  And that is a great wedding gift for your child!

To read the entire article click here.

Trailer Time for The Divorce Ritual!

Category : Divorce Party, Divorce Ritual, Friends and Divorce, Moving On

A big thanks to everyone for all of the positive feedback on Twiiter and this blog about my book cover for “The Divorce Ritual” (pictured above). As always, I deeply appreciate your continued support on this endeavor. I am very proud to announce that my trailer for the book is now available for viewing! If you’re wondering what an divorce ritual is…we answer that question and much more in this unique video It also shows the inner-workings of a divorce party as we filmed it during an event for Christine a truly wonderful and strong recent divorcee. She decided to move on and not look back…and nothing says, “I’m not looking back” like a divorce party. We shot the video along the Venice Beach canals in California.  Cocktails were flowing. The crowd was excited. The divorcee was smiling. Nothing could have been better! 

I hope you enjoy the trailer and look forward to your feedback. You can watch it by clicking here.

Friends Who Don’t Pick Sides

Category : Break-Up, Friends, Friends and Divorce, Uncategorized

 

My ex-husband and I were friends with a married couple for a long time.  We got divorced and they didn’t.  In fact, they are still married till this day! Even though I got remarried and, so did my ex, we both amazingly stayed friends with this married couple.  My husband and I go out to dinner with them.  My ex-husband and his wife go out to dinner with them.  This is a great example of friends who do not pick sides after a divorce. 

Depending on how bad the break-up was, friends tend to feel awkward staying friends with both exes.  When you bring new spouses into the mix, it can get even more awkward.  Friends will tend to pick sides at that moment, probably because it’s easiest and less complicated.  However, some people, like my friends, go with their heart.  They care for both of us and they want to see both of us, so they do!  Remember, sometimes life is as complicated as we make it. 

What do you think about friend’s picking sides once the divorce happens?

The Things People Say (And Shouldn’t)

Category : Break-Up, Friends, Friends and Divorce, Lessons

A reader sent me a really funny article.  I was so happy that she shared it with me and I wanted to share it with you! It’s about the 10 things that you should NEVER ever say to a divorcee. We all want to be a friend to a friend in need, but sometimes people say things they really shouldn’t. This article was posted on the adorable and informative site Cafe Mom.

1. “Didn’t you see this coming from the beginning?” Busted! I glimpsed into the future and saw disaster and ruination but planned an entire life with him anyway because I enjoy a good crushing life-blow. Next time around, a little heads-up?

2. “I always hated [insert scorned spouse’s name here].” Do you mean you always hated the man who I thought I would love forever and said so in front of everyone I knew on the best day of my life? Gee, thanks. (If you chose to procreate with scorned spouse, this statement is 168 times more offensive.)

3. “OMG. Do you think I’ll get divorced, too?” The good news for you is that divorce is not contagious. The bad news is you may get divorced for being so damn insensitive and self-centered.

For the complete list and some more laughs click here.

Find Out More With MORE Magazine

Category : Favorite Articles, Friends and Divorce, Healing, MORE Magazine, Moving On

Talking about your divorce with friends and family is important, but when does it become too much for everyone around you?!  I have written an online article for MORE Magazine about Divorce TMI. Please read it by clicking here.

Before I started writing about divorce for MORE, I was a loyal reader of their magazine and online site. So many fabulous, informative and helpful articles! Make sure you bookmark their site More.com and follow them on Twitter for the latest updates @MoreMag. This month the beautiful and inspiring actress  Mariska Hargitay graces their cover (pictured above). It’s available at newsstands now!

Host A Ladies Night

Category : Friends and Divorce, Home, Ladies Night, Laughter

Single girls.  Married girls. Come one. Come all! There’s nothing like letting off some steam with the ladies and hosting an at-home ladies night once every two weeks. This is sure to keep the spirits running high and the laughter abound after a divorce!

Historically, the fellas have been doing this for what seems like forever.  Whether it’s smoking some stogies on poker nights or fantasy football draft, the boys like to get together often.  The ladies need to take the lead on this too and make a night that’s all about the girls!  You can have a movie night with the ladies.  Or, a find a TV show that you and your friends love and have a night that revolves around that. If you rather chat the night away and add some girly pizazz, host at-home mani-pedi’s with someone from your local salon coming over and offering everyone a fab polish.  You could even have a wine tasting at the house with all the girls.

You may even feel like you are back in junior high and hosting a sleep over.  Trust me, you need this! Laughter heals all and this is the kind of fun you should be having after a divorce. So start texting, calling and organizing an evening to remember!

Cutting The Ties From Your Marriage

Category : Divorce Ritual, Ex-Spouse, Friends and Divorce, Moving On


In any relationship, we are left with ties that we need to untie, especially a marriage. From bills to insurance to your “in case of emergency” person, it often feels endless. However, there are some other ties that are fun to cut that have nothing to do with paperwork. At a recent divorce party that I threw, I brought in one of my “divorce rituals” that the ladies loved! It’s called “Cutting the Ties That Bind.”

Step 1: Get as many suit ties as the years that you were married. You can order some online for a couple of dollars each. If your ex left some of his clothes behind to pick up at a later date, cutting his Louis Vuitton ties is not a good idea.

Step 2: Have a pair of hedgeclippers. Put on a bow on the end of the handle to make it festive!

Step 3: Recruit two of your BFF’s and have them hold each end of the tie and stretch it out.

Step 4: This is the fun part….cut the ties right down the middle. One after another for all of the years you spend married to your ex.

Step 5: Have your friends be the clean-up crew and ask them to pick up the pieces of the ties because you are done picking up the pieces of your marriage.