Here is a recent CNN article written by Pepper Schwartz (professor of sociology at the University of Washington and the author or co-author of 19 books) about divorce entitled, “Why are baby boomers so divorce-prone?”:
(CNN) — A recent article in The New York Times noted that the nation’s divorce rate — which plateaued for years at around 50% — has significantly dropped — to just above 40%. As almost an aside, the writer mentioned that only one group, the 50-plusers, have seen their rate of divorce surge 50% in the past 20 years.
Oops — to this boomer, that is “burying the lead.” Why would only the boomers have a significant growth in marital dissolution — one in four divorces after age 50 — while other ages do not?
After all, it’s counterintuitive: Traditionally marriages are most vulnerable to divorce in the first seven to 10 years.
To read the rest of the article click here.
There’s a recent study that came out that discusses drinking in marriage and how the divorce rate is raised if only one spouse drinks heavily. If they both drink, it’s not a problem. In a new article by Science 2.0, they write:
Drinking and marriage don’t mix – unless both spouses do, according to a recent paper by the University at Buffalo Research Institute on Addictions (RIA) which followed 634 couples from the time of their weddings through the first nine years of marriage.
The results: couples where only one spouse was a heavy drinker had a much higher divorce rate than other couples but if both spouses were heavy drinkers, the divorce rate was the same as for couples where neither were heavy drinkers.
Over the course of the nine-year study, nearly 50 percent of couples where only one partner drank more heavily wound up divorcing, while the divorce rates for other couples was only 30 percent. “Heavy drinking” was defined as drinking six or more drinks at one time or drinking to intoxication.
The study controlled for factors such as marijuana and tobacco use, depression and socioeconomic status, which can also be related to marital dissatisfaction, separation and divorce.
“Our results indicate that it is the difference between the couple’s drinking habits, rather than the drinking itself, that leads to marital dissatisfaction, separation and divorce,” said Kenneth Leonard, PhD, RIA director and lead author of the study. “This research provides solid evidence to bolster the commonplace notion that heavy drinking by one partner can lead to divorce. Although some people might think that’s a likely outcome, there was surprisingly little data to back up that claim until now.”
To read the rest of the article click here.
I want to thank everyone who watched my video on AOL’s hit series “You’ve Got…” I had over 941,000 views. I am so happy that my message of “celebrating your divorce” has reached so many people . And, above all, I hoped it helped! Divorce is a dificult time and, at some point, you have to laugh again. If you know anyone going through a divorce or a break up please send them the link to my AOL video below as well as the link to my book “The Divorce Ritual.”
AOL “You’ve Got…” video link.
“The Divorce Ritual” link.
Reality-TV star Brandi Glanville of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills announced via Twitter that she is donating the gown she wore during her wedding to her ex-spouse Eddie Cibrian. She decided to donate her wedding dress two years after the divorce was finalized. Glanville wrote, “I donated my wedding gown to a soon to be army wife & I still haven’t heard about who received it! Well I hope it makes someone very happy.”
This shows that even two years after a divorce is finalized there is still some healing to do. I think it is definitely a good idea to get rid of the wedding dress if looking at it brings on too many stressful memories. Not to mention, if you want to get married again I doubt you would wear the dress a second time. To read more about Glanville donating her dress click here.
“The Divorce Ritual” is in today’s New York Post. Cindy Adams wrote a really fun piece with some quotes from my new book! Check it out by clicking here.
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I have an article in the popular blog Stacy Knows about 6 reasons for a quickie divorce. To check it out click here.
Yahoo News Australia just ran an article about divorce parties. You can read my quotes in the article by clicking here.
There is an upcoming book about divorce that may be one part shocking two parts interesting. When I saw the title, “Married at 14,” it immediately caught my eye (probably because I couldn’t believe my eyes). Here is the decription from the book:
Lucille Lang Day got married at age 14, gave birth to her first child at 15, divorced her husband at 16, married him again at 17, and left him at 18 to go back to school. Today she is an award-winning poet and holds an M.A. in English and M.F.A. in creative writing from San Francisco State University, an M.A. in zoology and a Ph.D. in science and mathematics education from the University of California at Berkeley. Her memoir, Married at Fourteen, is a story full of hope and encouragement for those who find themselves in challenging circumstances. Her successful quest for fulfillment in romance, marriage, motherhood, education, and career shows that we need not give up, no matter how far we have veered from our goals.
The book is not going to be released till October, but I would say she has been through more by the time she was 18 than many of us at 50. And getting married a second time to the same guy at 17? Wow, this is going to be one unique story. Here is an article the author recently wrote for the Huffington Post.
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Are quick divorce settlements the new trend in Hollywood? Well, it seemed to work for Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes. So many benefits to end a divorce quickly and efficiently. Less stress for all! Here is my latest article on the subject for The Huffington Post. Read it by clicking here.
Now that the Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes marriage is completely over, many are talking about who they should date next. The Hollywood Reporter took a poll with Kim Kardashian, topping the list for Tom (oh boy!). While that is what the tabloids would have a field day with, is it the best thing to start dating immediately after a divorce? Sure, you have to get back there, but it’s important to take your time — especially if you have children. You have a sea of emotions that you have to deal with after the break-up. However, when you are ready to take the leap there are lots of helpful tips in my new book The Divorce Ritual.
In the chapter “Suddenly Single,” I get into dating tips for the new divorcee. Take a look at a few sample divorce rituals by clicking here.