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Sometimes A Picture Is Worth No Words

Category : Letters, Moving On

I got an email from a reader that I wanted to share with you. It ‘s from a recently divorced man who had a question. Here we go…

Dear Lois,

I recently came across your blog and I want to thank you for writing it! I’ve been going through a divorce and your articles have made me laugh. I did have a question for you. I haven’t spoken to my ex wife in six months, but came across a bunch of irreplaceable childhood photographs of hers that I had in a shoebox from when I was making a video for her 40th birthday. I haven’t had any contact with her since I filed for divorce because she cheated on me. However, I think she would like these photos back. What do you suggest? If you have a moment please respond. Thanks again!



Hi Nick,

I feel like I should call you Saint Nick because you are so kind to think of your ex after she did something like that to you. You truly are the bigger person in that relationship, so hats off to you! If you feel that it she would like the photographs back and it would make you feel better that you sent them to her, then by all means throw some postage on it. However, if you don’t want any contact with her, I would not include a note. Just send the photos and she will get the point. Sometimes a picture is worth no words.

All best,