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Optimism After Divorce

Category : Celebrity, Favorite Articles, Movies, Moving On

Ryan Reynolds and Scarlett Johansson had gotten divorced, and the star of the upcoming big summer film The Green Lantern is not totally over it yet. “Anyone who gets divorced goes through a lot of pain, but you come out of it. I’m not out of it yet. At all,” he admitted in the new issue of Details Magazine. “But I sense that as I do come through it, there’s optimism. How can there not be?” he wondered aloud, noting that “any kind of crisis can be good” because “it wakes you up.” I think that Reynolds has a healthy way of looking at his divorce, especially after having a marriage in the public eye. I also think it’s good to see men talking about divorce in the press because we always seem to hear the females opinion and left wondering about the man. “Departing a relationship and still maintaining the idea that this is still the same person I married is a great luxury that I experienced,” he went on to tell the magazine. “Thankfully I was in a relationship where two people chose to remain on the high road in every regard.” For more pick up the new issue of Details on stands now.

Fresh Sheets, Fresh Start!

Category : Divorce Ritual, Moving On

The bed has always been considered a very sacred place during a marriage. During your union, it was a place of rest (among other things). If you ended up getting the bed during the split, what do you do with the sheets?

A fabulous divorce ritual is getting rid of all of the old sheets from your old marriage. The bed is now yours and there’s nothing like spreading out on some fresh sheets and enjoying all of the new space you have again! Plus, you know when you’re on a business trip and can’t wait to get home into your own bed. Well, it is the same feeling after a divorce. Bringing in some new sheets is that first step to feeling like it’s your own bed again!

A friend asked me what she should do with the old sheets? Good question. How about throwing them in the garbage. They also can be useful to keep a bonfire going. How about cutting each sheet up into a big heart for loving yourself for getting through your divorce?

Start your new life with new sheets! Choose the color you want, the design you desire, and enjoy the freshness of a brand new set. Ah, a good night’s rest is a great way to start the single life! Sweet dreams :)

Cosmetic Surgery After Divorce

Category : Break-Up, Moving On

CBS News in New York had a story last week about how many people are having cosmetic surgery after divorce, which is becoming a hot new trend.

Dubbed “revenge cosmetic surgery” by the media, it seems that more and more women are getting a nip and a tuck when they have a breakup. And, yes, it is more women than men. The America Society of Plastic Surgery reported that in America in 2009 approximately 900,000 procedures were performed on men while over 9 million cosmetic procedures were done on women!

I assume the surgery goes along with the philosophy that you want to be as new and fresh on the outside as you feel on the inside. It makes a lot of sense. Get rid of all the things you are unhappy with at the same time: your nose, wrinkles and spouse. What a concept! Even the psychologists interviewed all thought it was a good idea.

Does a little Botox really help cure the breakup blues? What do you think?

Sometimes A Picture Is Worth No Words

Category : Letters, Moving On

I got an email from a reader that I wanted to share with you. It ‘s from a recently divorced man who had a question. Here we go…

Dear Lois,

I recently came across your blog and I want to thank you for writing it! I’ve been going through a divorce and your articles have made me laugh. I did have a question for you. I haven’t spoken to my ex wife in six months, but came across a bunch of irreplaceable childhood photographs of hers that I had in a shoebox from when I was making a video for her 40th birthday. I haven’t had any contact with her since I filed for divorce because she cheated on me. However, I think she would like these photos back. What do you suggest? If you have a moment please respond. Thanks again!

Nick

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Hi Nick,

I feel like I should call you Saint Nick because you are so kind to think of your ex after she did something like that to you. You truly are the bigger person in that relationship, so hats off to you! If you feel that it she would like the photographs back and it would make you feel better that you sent them to her, then by all means throw some postage on it. However, if you don’t want any contact with her, I would not include a note. Just send the photos and she will get the point. Sometimes a picture is worth no words.

All best,

Lois