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New Divorce party game

Category : A New You, Break-Up, Divorce Party, Friends, Friends and Divorce, Moving On, Uncategorized

On first glance you may think you are seeing a mature “Girl Scouts Gone Wild” episode being filmed, but in reality you are most likely watching someone play Divorce Dares, the new wearable divorce party game from Burnsy Badges.   It features a beautiful black sash which proclaims “Just Divorced!” on the front with the phrase “Help me earn my Badges!” on the back. Badges? What badges??

This is where it gets interesting! The game comes with 60 adhesive badges that are illustrated to look like embroidered “Scout Style” patches. They have cute names and illustrations that each represent a particular dare or task the wearer must accomplish before the end of the nights festivities.
The Divorcee picks out 20 or so badges based on the name, color or whatever strikes her fancy and then places them on the front of the sash. The others girls in the party have the list which describes what each badge means and what she must do. Let the fun begin as they range from mild to wild and are pretty hilarious! The best part is that many of them require the assistance of a cute guy (or guys) to accomplish. The badges come off the sash as the dares are completed. The Divorcee can even take a pass and hand out up to three of the badges for other ladies in the group to accomplish in place of her. It’s a great way for the Divorcee to open up again, maybe try something new, and even our of her comfort zone, and get off to a fun, fresh start!”

Purchase Divorce Dares on the Burnsy Badges website here

Demi Moore Seems Close to Finalizing Her Divorce

Category : Celebrity, Divorce Party, Moving On, Your Tango

Check out my latest article for YourTango about divorce parties.  Demi Moore is reportedly having one!

The media has been talking about Demi Moore planning a survivor-themed divorce party. It appears that her divorce is close to being finalized with her ex-husband Ashton Kutcher.  Divorce parties continue to be a popular way to move on after a breakup. As a divorce party planner, I am happy that people have found a way to help move past such a difficult time.

To read the rest of the article click here.


“You’ve Got” To Celebrate Your Divorce

Category : Internet, Interviews, Moving On, The Divorce Ritual

I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed for an episode of AOL’s hit series “You’ve Got.”  The series has featured many notable guests, including Matt Damon, Edward Norton, Jessica Alba, Glenn Close, Bette Midler and Dan Rather, among many others.  On this episode, I discuss my new book “The Divorce Ritual” and the importance of keeping your spirits up during and after a divorce.  

“You’ve Got”…to celebrate your divorce! To watch the episode click here.

To check out some really fun sample highlights from “The Divorce Ritual” click here.
To pick up your copy of The Divorce Ritual” click here.

Trailer Time for The Divorce Ritual!

Category : Divorce Party, Divorce Ritual, Friends and Divorce, Moving On

A big thanks to everyone for all of the positive feedback on Twiiter and this blog about my book cover for “The Divorce Ritual” (pictured above). As always, I deeply appreciate your continued support on this endeavor. I am very proud to announce that my trailer for the book is now available for viewing! If you’re wondering what an divorce ritual is…we answer that question and much more in this unique video It also shows the inner-workings of a divorce party as we filmed it during an event for Christine a truly wonderful and strong recent divorcee. She decided to move on and not look back…and nothing says, “I’m not looking back” like a divorce party. We shot the video along the Venice Beach canals in California.  Cocktails were flowing. The crowd was excited. The divorcee was smiling. Nothing could have been better! 

I hope you enjoy the trailer and look forward to your feedback. You can watch it by clicking here.

Balancing Act

Category : A New You, Moving On

Balancing your new life after a divorce is so important. When you’re going through the divorce, you’re  usually about as balanced as an earthquake.  However, when you get past it all, you need to put your best foot forward and try not to fall because life can certainly be a high wire act!

Many people complain that their marriage didn’t have the right balance to it. That their relationship became about business instead of remaining a mixture of both work and love.  That both spouses were all about the kids and they never spent time with just each other.  That one spouse was working all of the time and the other one was home waiting. Life isn’t easy and balance is often a difficult thing to maintain.  I try every day to balance it all and it’s never an easy task.  I suggest creating more balance in your life.

If you’re still married, then you definitely need to focus on balance. If you’re divorced and starting a new life, try your very best to balance all that is new and being put in front of you. 

*Balance your role as single mother and single woman on the dating scene. 

*Balance being a working professional and someone who also likes to have a good time.

*Balance driving the children to soccer practice and getting some “me” time.

*Balance your family life and your life with your closest friends.

*Balance a healthy diet with letting go once in a while.

Inner Voice

Category : Healing, Moving On, Uncategorized

When we are going through a divorce, we turn to others for advice. Through our daily travels we ask the butcher, baker and candlestick maker (hair stylist, esthetician and personal trainer), their advice about us moving on. It’s like each one of them are a captive audience to vent our frustrations.

If you are thinking about getting a divorce, you can be clouded by indecision when you are trying to come to a final decision. If you have children with your spouse it can definitely add to difficulty. While we turn to others for advice, many times we have the answers to some of these important questions and issues ourselves.

We all have an inner voice.  Your inner voice is that girlfriend or best buddy in our heads that talks to us.  Not voices talking to you.  (That’s a whole different problem.)  This is that sensible side of us that let’s off a red light when something feels wrong and a green light when it feels right.  The inner voice and our gut are connected. They both get that sixth sense.  However, sometimes it is hard to hear our own inner voice.  It’s not so much from noise as it is from the distractions that life presents us, especially during the time of a divorce. If something is bothering you and you’re trying to find some answers, take a moment alone to listen to your inner voice.  Head out for a long walk.  Take a drive to the beach. Sit under a tree in the park. It’s these times alone that let us decompress and gather our thoughts when some of the most important issues get resolved. And your inner voice will start talking and you will be able to listen.

Out With The Old

Category : Break-Up, Engagement Rings, Gifts, Moving On

What do you do with that jewelry your ex gave you back in the day?  The necklace he surprised you with when he was courting you before you both landed in divorce court…that ring you got from him on Valentine’s Day before he broke your heart. When you go into your jewelry collection to find something to wear for a night out on the town, seeing them is probably a reminder of a relationship that you’d like to forget. It does seem a little awkward and sort of depressing to go to a pawn shop.  Or walking into the store of your local trusted jeweler might hit a little too close to home. Well, the website seems to possibly be the answer.  It’s like the ebay for exes who want to part ways with the momentos that mean nothing anymore. You can put up the jewelry that you want to sell from your ex with no hassle or stress. Here’s a description from their website:

Welcome to EXBOYFRIENDJEWELRY.COM – a site where you can buy/sell/trade and blog about all of those little painful reminders in your jewelry box that make you wonder “what did I ever see in him?”  You set your own price.  You get it off your chest and out of your sight.  Just because you don’t want it, doesn’t mean somebody else isn’t dying for it.  Everyone’s a winner!   Maybe you love him, maybe you never want to speak to him again, but either way, you’re ready to move on and make a little rent money in the process (insert “wink” icon here).   Here’s the story, you don’t want it and he can’t have it back (insert another “wink” icon here, and then stop winking, seriously).

So log on today and see what  is all about for yourself.  There’s nothing like letting go of the past (and making a little dough while you’re at it)!

Find Out More With MORE Magazine

Category : Favorite Articles, Friends and Divorce, Healing, MORE Magazine, Moving On

Talking about your divorce with friends and family is important, but when does it become too much for everyone around you?!  I have written an online article for MORE Magazine about Divorce TMI. Please read it by clicking here.

Before I started writing about divorce for MORE, I was a loyal reader of their magazine and online site. So many fabulous, informative and helpful articles! Make sure you bookmark their site and follow them on Twitter for the latest updates @MoreMag. This month the beautiful and inspiring actress  Mariska Hargitay graces their cover (pictured above). It’s available at newsstands now!

Staying For The Sake Of Staying

Category : Moving On

Ever since I began my career as a social worker and continued to work with divorcees, I have seen far too many people who stay in relationships for all the wrong reasons. Many stay for the sake of staying, which is never a healthy thing.  Even with 50% of marriages ending in divorce, I still think there are couples staying together instead of leaving.  Many times, staying is influenced by a couples cultural and generational background. 

If you are staying for the wrong reasons, you might want to rethink the reasons why. If you think you may be staying in an unhealthy relationship but don’t know the reasons why, take a  look at the list below and see if it relates to you:

*Children are a major reason married couples stay together.  While it is certainly a good reason, you also need to consider that your children want you both to be happy and if leaving would make your lives better your kids might be even happier in the end as well.

*Fear can keep a person in the wrong relationship. While you may be scared of the unknown and what unexpected things life can bring, you need to consider taking that leap.

*One of the reasons many stay is because of low self esteem. They actually feel like they deserve to be mistreated. Since they don’t like themselves they search out people who will treat them the same.  Know your worth!

*Many people also have a hard time being alone. They settle for having a body next to them,even if it clearly isn’t the right one.

*These days with the current economy, financial issues can keep two people together.  Not the right time to see the home. A bad time to look for a job.

*Guilt can play its hand too.  A husband or wife may feel guilty because their partner says they need them.  If you take off in your partners time of need, the guilt can mount.  But many times its more of the partner making you feel that way than the reality of the situation.   

*The feeling of failure is often a reason why people stay.  If you have spent 10 years with your partner and you leave, then you feel like you failed and wasted all of that time.

Time to live YOUR life.  Do what feels right and live by your decisions.

Cutting The Ties From Your Marriage

Category : Divorce Ritual, Ex-Spouse, Friends and Divorce, Moving On

In any relationship, we are left with ties that we need to untie, especially a marriage. From bills to insurance to your “in case of emergency” person, it often feels endless. However, there are some other ties that are fun to cut that have nothing to do with paperwork. At a recent divorce party that I threw, I brought in one of my “divorce rituals” that the ladies loved! It’s called “Cutting the Ties That Bind.”

Step 1: Get as many suit ties as the years that you were married. You can order some online for a couple of dollars each. If your ex left some of his clothes behind to pick up at a later date, cutting his Louis Vuitton ties is not a good idea.

Step 2: Have a pair of hedgeclippers. Put on a bow on the end of the handle to make it festive!

Step 3: Recruit two of your BFF’s and have them hold each end of the tie and stretch it out.

Step 4: This is the fun part….cut the ties right down the middle. One after another for all of the years you spend married to your ex.

Step 5: Have your friends be the clean-up crew and ask them to pick up the pieces of the ties because you are done picking up the pieces of your marriage.