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Holiday Divorce Ritual

Category : Divorce Ritual, Holidays

The Jewish community enjoys going out for Chinese food and a movie on Christmas Day. If you’re recently divorced and don’t want to stay home for the holidays, this divorce ritual is about making a reservation.  You probably haven’t had Chinese food on Christmas Day before, but you will enjoy the meal.  As you can see by the photo above, they appreciate it!

For more holiday divorce rituals, pick up my new book “The Divorce Ritual: Get Up, Get Out and Get On With Your Life” by clicking here.

A New Divorce Ritual

Category : Divorce Ritual, Ex-Spouse, The Divorce Ritual

We all spend a lot of time on our cell phones.  Yesterday, while going to my “favorites,” I realized there’s another ritual that is dramatic and quite serious.  This Divorce Ritual is called “Not a ‘Favorite’ Any Longer” and it involves deleting your ex from your list of favorites on your phone. While it only takes you one second to hit the delete button, it can take a long time to finally get to this point.  How many times have you looked at that name and dialed it? As the divorce proceeded, how many times did you look at that name and feel really sad, mad and angry?  Delete it!  Imagine how healing this can be.  You don’t have to open your phone and see your ex’s name.  Obviously, they’re not your “favorite” any longer, so get rid of them and find a new favorite friend to take their place!

The Next Chapter Podcast

Category : Divorce Party, Divorce Ritual, Holidays

I recently did a podcast interview with The Next Chapter, a wonderful site that helps women through divorce. We discuss my book “The Divorce Ritual: Get Up, Get Out and Get On With Your Life” as well as share some helpful tips. You can listen to it by clicking here. Follow The Next Chapter on twitter.

My AOL Interview on Divorce

Category : Divorce Ritual, Healing

Hi all, happy New Year! If you haven’t had a chance to watch my video for AOL’s “You’ve Got” series please do. It will help people going through a divorce. You can watch it by clicking here. Please pass it along. Thanks!

Divorce In The Bronx

Category : Books, Divorce Ritual

The Bronx Times did a wonderful review of my book The Divorce Ritual. Here are some highlights from the article entitled, This book CELEBRATES divorce by Bob Kappstatter: 

Three things every divorce lawyer should have handy on his desk:

°A box of tissues for the client.

°A calculator to figure the alimony.

° Lois Tarter’s book, The Divorce Ritual.

That last item is to get the client through – and happily beyond – her divorce.

Read the entire review  by clicking here.

A New Review for The Divorce Ritual

Category : Books, Divorce Ritual

When you write a book, I’ve learned that a great review can certainly make your day. Well, this recent review on by Grady Harp made my month. He is a male reader who really understood the book and what I was trying to offer readers. Thank you, thank you, thank you Grady! Appreciate you taking the time to read the book and writing such a thoughtful review. Here it is…


An Ubeat Climb Out of Divorce

Lois Tarter has been there, done that, and now she shares her experiences on dealing with the growing popular condition called Divorce. In this easy to read book she outlines why divorce can be a beginning – a pathway out of a life that has grown unfulfilling into a new world of freedom and growth – and celebration.

Tarter takes it from the top – the immediate response to divorce, dealing and coping with the change and then deciding to chin up and take this new stage in life as a time for growth. Her statistics about the divorce rate may astound some, and may challenge others to consider whether sticking with a marriage gone sour is worth the personal and conjoined agony, and then having the big intake of breath that starts a whole new way of looking at freedom.

Her `rituals’ are at once meaningful and often funny – getting rid of the clothes of the partner departed, redoing your home to be you and not the past `we’, making all manner of changes in lifestyle that allow new friends to enter as well as dealing with past `shared friends’, mending fences, etc. As she states when discussing her own divorce, `I needed something that was less like jumping off a bridge and more like climbing a mountain. After a divorce, it’s important to feel like you’re making progress. These rituals will help you move forward and you’ll enjoy an incredible sense of accomplishment every time you complete one.’

Tarter lists 13 ways/rituals to `clean house’, then proceeds to show how to heal with feeling – including online dating, playing old movies that make divorce an up front topic, how to survive your first apart Valentine’s Day, delete instant messaging, throw a divorce party, getting involved in activities such as yoga, how to deal with holidays – all manner of self improvement.

Tarter keeps it light and this book is best suited for women – both with and without children (and she discusses dealing with children in a brief but informed manner). But as other men who are either in the throes of divorce or past the initial stun gun effect, this information is easily transferable. This is a focused self-help book directed at a specific audience. On target and witty, it should do well. Grady Harp, October 12

To pick up The Divorce Ritual click here.

“The Divorce Ritual” Vegas Style

Category : Divorce Party, Divorce Ritual, Favorite Articles

Robin Leach wrote a great mention about my book The Divorce Ritual in the Las Vegas Sun. Check it out by clicking here.

The Divorce Ritual in Today’s NY Post

Category : Divorce Ritual, News

“The Divorce Ritual” is in today’s New York Post. Cindy Adams wrote a really fun piece with some quotes from my new book! Check it out by clicking here.

Pick up my new book by clicking here.

Are You Free Friday Night?

Category : Celebrity, Divorce Ritual, News

Now that the Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes marriage is completely over, many are talking about who they should date next. The Hollywood Reporter took a poll with Kim Kardashian, topping the list for Tom (oh boy!). While that is what the tabloids would have a field day with, is it the best thing to start dating immediately after a divorce? Sure, you have to get back there, but it’s important to take your time — especially if you have children. You have a sea of emotions that you have to deal with after the break-up. However, when you are ready to take the leap there are lots of helpful tips in my new book The Divorce Ritual.

In the chapter “Suddenly Single,” I get into dating tips for the new divorcee. Take a look at a few sample divorce rituals by clicking here.

The Divorce Ritual In The Press

Category : Divorce Ritual, News

My new book The Divorce Ritual has been currently making the rounds in the press with more to come! Below are some links to a few recent articles about me and the book. Share them on Twitter, Facebook and with your friends! Anybody going through  divorce will appreciate your help and thinking of them. Thanks!

*Huffington Post

*MORE Magazine

*L.A. Parent