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Read this in the Huffington Post and absolutely had to share with you.  Enjoy

 

Proof We All Do Crazy Sh*t To Get Over Our Breakups

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Breaking up is hard. Just ask one 26-year-old Chinese woman, who reportedly coped with the recent demise of her relationship by spending a full week in KFC consuming massive quantities of fried food.

While we’re a bit skeptical that this recent news is true because of obvious plot holes, (Where did she sleep? Why didn’t a concerned KFC worker intervene??), the story nonetheless has a moral we can all relate to: Breakups are devastating, and make us do things — and eat things — we would never normally do… or eat.

In fact, science confirms that breakups may actually affect your brain. According to a study published in the Journal of Neurophysiology, your post-breakup brain chemistry can keep you feeling addicted to your former boo even if they’ve stomped all over your heart or generally acted like a jerk.

So, in solidarity with one KFC-loving lady nursing a broken heart, HuffPost readers ‘fessed up to their worst post-breakup coping rituals:

1. “Burned our wedding pictures.

2. “Drank a bottle of wine every night with my best friend. Those were some killer mornings.”

3. “Various body piercing. Plus, lots of poor decisions.”

4. “Got pregnant by his best friend… Woops.”

5.“Going out partying to prove I still was fun.”

6. “Tequila, and then who knows what…”

7. “Too much Lana Del Rey.”

8. “The drive-by to see if he’s home… Icky!!”

9.Post breakup sex with the guy I broke up.”

10. “Keyed his car… I was 21 (many years ago).”

11. “Sleeping on the couch because my bed felt way bigger than it should.”

12. “Lying awake at night wondering how he really felt about me.”

13. “Called his wife.”

14. “Farmville.”

15. “Slept on my couch for three years. Couldn’t go to bed.

16. “I got hair extensions. They were hilarious.

17.I went to the movies every night after work and stayed for two or three showings
until it was too late to keep my eyes open. Only way I could think of to avoid thinking, people, stalking FB, crying.”

18. “My exes.”

19. Boxes of wine.”

20. “Writing tons of songs and posting them on my public Youtube page for my ex to see and ruminate about. The songs are great, but it took me way too long to block his account from seeing them.”

 

New Divorce party game

Category : A New You, Break-Up, Divorce Party, Friends, Friends and Divorce, Moving On, Uncategorized

On first glance you may think you are seeing a mature “Girl Scouts Gone Wild” episode being filmed, but in reality you are most likely watching someone play Divorce Dares, the new wearable divorce party game from Burnsy Badges.   It features a beautiful black sash which proclaims “Just Divorced!” on the front with the phrase “Help me earn my Badges!” on the back. Badges? What badges??

This is where it gets interesting! The game comes with 60 adhesive badges that are illustrated to look like embroidered “Scout Style” patches. They have cute names and illustrations that each represent a particular dare or task the wearer must accomplish before the end of the nights festivities.
The Divorcee picks out 20 or so badges based on the name, color or whatever strikes her fancy and then places them on the front of the sash. The others girls in the party have the list which describes what each badge means and what she must do. Let the fun begin as they range from mild to wild and are pretty hilarious! The best part is that many of them require the assistance of a cute guy (or guys) to accomplish. The badges come off the sash as the dares are completed. The Divorcee can even take a pass and hand out up to three of the badges for other ladies in the group to accomplish in place of her. It’s a great way for the Divorcee to open up again, maybe try something new, and even our of her comfort zone, and get off to a fun, fresh start!”

Purchase Divorce Dares on the Burnsy Badges website here

Jennifer Lopez Talks Divorce

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Jennifer Lopez has been talking about divorce in the press as of late.  However, it’s not about hers, but her parents divorce.

The Huffington Post reported that when Lopez went back home for a recent issue of W Magazine, it brought her back memories of her parents divorce:

“The last time I was in there was when my mom and dad called us home to tell us that they were separating after 33 years of marriage,” she said. “I think that’s why I was nervous about coming here today. It’s like seeing someone from the past — you’re afraid to run into them because you never know if it’s going to be ‘wow’ or very difficult. This is a combination of both.”

And although returning to her childhood home was difficult for the star, Lopez credits much of her success to the work ethic she learned from her mom and dad while growing up in that house in The Bronx.

To read the rest of the article click here

Friends Who Don’t Pick Sides

Category : Break-Up, Friends, Friends and Divorce, Uncategorized

 

My ex-husband and I were friends with a married couple for a long time.  We got divorced and they didn’t.  In fact, they are still married till this day! Even though I got remarried and, so did my ex, we both amazingly stayed friends with this married couple.  My husband and I go out to dinner with them.  My ex-husband and his wife go out to dinner with them.  This is a great example of friends who do not pick sides after a divorce. 

Depending on how bad the break-up was, friends tend to feel awkward staying friends with both exes.  When you bring new spouses into the mix, it can get even more awkward.  Friends will tend to pick sides at that moment, probably because it’s easiest and less complicated.  However, some people, like my friends, go with their heart.  They care for both of us and they want to see both of us, so they do!  Remember, sometimes life is as complicated as we make it. 

What do you think about friend’s picking sides once the divorce happens?

Inner Voice

Category : Healing, Moving On, Uncategorized

When we are going through a divorce, we turn to others for advice. Through our daily travels we ask the butcher, baker and candlestick maker (hair stylist, esthetician and personal trainer), their advice about us moving on. It’s like each one of them are a captive audience to vent our frustrations.

If you are thinking about getting a divorce, you can be clouded by indecision when you are trying to come to a final decision. If you have children with your spouse it can definitely add to difficulty. While we turn to others for advice, many times we have the answers to some of these important questions and issues ourselves.

We all have an inner voice.  Your inner voice is that girlfriend or best buddy in our heads that talks to us.  Not voices talking to you.  (That’s a whole different problem.)  This is that sensible side of us that let’s off a red light when something feels wrong and a green light when it feels right.  The inner voice and our gut are connected. They both get that sixth sense.  However, sometimes it is hard to hear our own inner voice.  It’s not so much from noise as it is from the distractions that life presents us, especially during the time of a divorce. If something is bothering you and you’re trying to find some answers, take a moment alone to listen to your inner voice.  Head out for a long walk.  Take a drive to the beach. Sit under a tree in the park. It’s these times alone that let us decompress and gather our thoughts when some of the most important issues get resolved. And your inner voice will start talking and you will be able to listen.

Hollywood Prenups

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It seems that as the divorce rate rises that prenups are on the rise as well.  But are the demands by the future spouses rising too?  Many people often wonder what kind of agreements celebrities make to protect their fortune and children.  High child support? Penalties for cheating? Extravagant shopping budget?  If these prenups are made with Hollywood couples, you can probably expect something over-the-top.

Protecting your assets and image seems to be the order of the day in the entertainment business.  In my quest to find the most outrageous prenups, I came across an interesting article by the Foresight Legal Group filled with interesting celeb demands if the marriage goes south.  Below are some of those with two couples you have probably heard of:

Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom

Should Khloe and Lamar divorce, their prenup states that Khloe will receive $500,000 for each year they’re married, $25,000 a month in spousal support, their house, a new car at the end of every lease cycle, $5,000 a month for shopping, $1,000 a month for beauty care, and season courtside Lakers tickets for her whole family.  Because if she’s no longer married to Lamar, there’s another Lakers player she might be interested in…

Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones

Catherine and Michael’s prenup contains a very popular — especially among the celebrity set — ‘cheating clause.’ Should Michael ever be caught cheating, he owes Catherine $5 million.  And $2.8 million for each year they were married.

For more celeb prenup fun click here.

 

 

Sayonara To Your Marriage

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I have spent lots of time in Japan and enjoy the country very much, especially the food.  A new custom with divorce has arisen that has certainly peaked my interest. 

It seems that the Japanese have entered the divorce party game.  There is a special divorce planner who will create a ceremony for not just you, but your ex-spouse.  Yes, you will be having the divorce party together.  The Japanese are known to be more polite than were are, so maybe this is a more timid affair. 

The New York Times has written an interesting article covering it all entitled, “Untying the Knot In Japan.”  They detail one party, “held in what Terai [divorce party planner] calls his House of Divorce: an abandoned old residence with no power, no plumbing and peeling paint. “It’s a building which represents a husband and wife’s relationship — about to collapse.”  I don’t know about you, but I am more partial to a suite at the Beverly Hills Hotel and a cosmo, but to each is own.  Next up, the ceremonial ring smashing.   ”Terai brought out a large hammer with a head shaped like a frog and placed Atsuko’s wedding ring on a table. He instructed them to hold the hammer together and pound down on the band at the count of three. The first blow knocked the ring onto the ground, where Terai scoured the cement floor with the aid of a tea candle. The second attempt was a success, squashing the ring into an oblong shape. Terai showed it to Atsuko’s friend, who nodded her satisfaction.”  What, they don’t have pawn shops in Japan?  I have to say that they have an interesting way of doing divorce in Japan.

Winning?!

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Not sure if this is “winning” for Charlie Sheen, but his divorce from Brooke Mueller is officially finalized. They came to an agreement according to Fox News:

Charlie Sheen is officially back on the market.

The former “Two and a Half Men” star’s divorce from Brooke Mueller was finalized Monday, six months after the petition was filed.

According to the custody agreement, Mueller will receive $55G a month to support the former couple’s twin sons. Mueller also received a lump sum of $757,698.70, as well as a $1M buyout of the couple’s former home, which Sheen will keep.

The legal documents also reportedly stated that “under no circumstances shall the child support paid by Charlie for Bob and Max [his sons] be less than the child support paid by Charlie to [other ex-wife] Denise Richards for [his daughters] Sam and Lola.”

BFF’S With Your Ex

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I’m very excited to announce that I’m also writing for the oh-so fabulous site SheKnows.com.  If you haven’t been over there yet definitely check it out!  It covers everthing from entertainment to cooking to parenting to pets, and much more.  It also covers divorce and I will be contributing articles twice a month to the site.   My first article is entitled, “Staying Friends With Your Ex After A Divorce.”  I feel this is a timely and important topic, especially if you have children together! 

To check out the article click here.